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Offline Ashley77

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« on: November 17, 2012, 06:32:20 AM »
Last night i had been to a massage parlour where body massage is provided with a happy ending. The lady got nude and got down to massaging me, occassionaly stroking my penis. Before all this started, i did a gross check to see if her hands were clean and free from wounds. It was; atleast it appeared so. When she was stroking me, i got excited and i inserted one of my fingers inside her mound and played with her a little. Obiously there was her vaginal fluid on my finger. After some time, i brought out my finger and laid still on the bed for a while; she kept stroking my penis. After 3 or 4 minutes, when i was about to reach orgasom, i pushed aside her hand and ejaculated myself using the same hand which i had put inside her a few minutes back. At the time of my ejaculation, some of my cum might have come in contact with my finger which was inside her a couple of miuntes back. I do not know if she was HIV +. Buyt i assume most of these women who are into these business in Australia are aware of the HIV and do take precautions. Anyway, Do i have a chance of being HIV infected?

Please help. I need some peace of mind.

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« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2012, 06:39:17 AM »

You absolutely did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. Hiv is NOT transmitted through mutual masturbation. Not one person has ever been infected this way and you will not be the first.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER GETTING A HANDJOB OR FINGERING, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2012, 06:29:03 PM »
I was out in one the massage parlours. A brunette offered me to massage with an happy ending. During the course of the massage, I rubbed her vagina several times while she stroked my penis.

1. Is there any way I could have contracted HIV by touching her vagina with my hand and then using that same hand to touch and stroke my own penis when i ejaculated? Ii is highly possible that her vaginal gluids were still on my fingers and it could get mixed with my semen when it came out.   Please advise.....please...if possible in details......There was no sex.

2. During the whole thins, she lightly rimmed my butthole with her finger. BUT she had put on a condom before doing that. Is this ok?

3. once she sucked my penis with a condom and once she sucked without. is this ok?

4. is there a risk of contracting HIV by touching her vagina? i had her cum on my fingers but then afterwards i had used an antibacterial to wash my hands.

please advise. i am terribly confused. please

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Re: Please HELP
« Reply #3 on: November 17, 2012, 06:43:12 PM »
Ashley, I've merged your threads here as it is a rule for our memmbers to post all entries in the same thread. Don't start new threads. This is the only place you should be writing.

You are worrying needlessly. The ONLY confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as you consistently and properly use condoms for those activities you will be well protected against HIV.

None of the activities which are concerned about are risks for the transmission of HIV sexually.

There's no cause for concern nor any need for testing. Get on with your life.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #4 on: November 17, 2012, 06:50:56 PM »
Thanks Andy. That was comforting.

In the last 2 years i have never had sex outside without using a condom.[/b]

What i did have, is like massages with happy ending. But to the best of my knowledge, these women who are into this bussiness they are also well aware of these things so they take precautions. Isnt it? afterall everyone loves to live.

I have done a HIV test last Fiday. Do u think it will come out negative?


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