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Offline hababa

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Sex with Gay Positive Partner
« on: November 11, 2012, 01:57:42 PM »
Hi all,

What a great resource. And I'd appreciate any feedback... I am a 23 y/o gay male and I have been dating a HIV positive man, also 23 y/o with undetectable viral load.

We were sexually intimate for the first time yesterday. From what I read on these forums and other websites, our activities were fairly low risk. Namely:

- kissing
- petting
- fingering (I received, he used his saliva)
- rimming (I received from him)
- licking (I delivered, including around the testicles and base of the penis)

Again, from what I read it was very low risk activity but I just want to check.

On an aside... I would like to perform oral sex eventually. I have read that it is advisable to use a condom. How risky is it without? I'm not quite sure how to bring this up with my partner. Any tips on that would be appreciated! Thanks

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Sex with Gay Positive Partner
« Reply #1 on: November 11, 2012, 05:30:31 PM »
It's not a low risk, it isn't a risk at all.

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Re: Sex with Gay Positive Partner
« Reply #2 on: November 11, 2012, 06:43:12 PM »
Honestly, unless your oral hygiene is truly horrific (Google "meth mouth") you aren't going to get HIV from giving oral sex. Of course, kissing and receiving oral sex are known to be no risk situations as well.

If you wear a condom for penetrative anal sex you will absolutely avoid HIV. And if your boyfriend manages to keep his viral load undetectable, then his ability to transmit the virus to you in the unlikely event of a condom break (or forgotten condom) is next to impossible.

I am really, really glad that your boyfriend is taking such good care of his health. That's great for him, and it's also great for you.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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