Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
November 20, 2017, 06:30:02 PM

Login with username, password and session length

  • Total Members: 31856
  • Latest: esm
  • Total Posts: 722532
  • Total Topics: 58715
  • Online Today: 351
  • Online Ever: 1421
  • (August 13, 2016, 05:18:44 AM)
Users Online


Welcome to the POZ Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" POZ forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all POZ pages, including our "HIV Transmission and Risks" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" basics, will remain accessible to all.

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: My situation  (Read 1380 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline wearegonzo

  • New Member
  • Posts: 1
My situation
« on: October 12, 2012, 12:56:21 AM »
I am a straight male, 19 years old, healthy, non-drug user, circumcised.  About 2 months ago, I had a casual sexual encounter with a woman I met on Craigslist but do not know at all and have no contact with.  (This was a purely casual encounter, no exchange of money, drugs, etc.)

While it began protected (as it was for at least 3/4 of the time), at the very end the condom was removed for a blowjob before she reinserted (unprotected) for me to finish.  She said she was HIV/STI free, but I have no way of verifying this.  The unprotected portion lasted around 5 minutes before I ejaculated.  She left, and we have not talked since.  Immediately after the encounter (while this probably is irrelevant, means nothing, and will sound stupid), I sprayed my genitals with Lysol, dipped the head of my penis in hard liquor, and cleaned the pubic area thoroughly.

For the next few weeks, I exhibited no major signs of any STI.  About two weeks after, I did feel somewhat sick, but only with symptoms reminiscent of a sinus headache.  I had one mouth ulcer around the same time.  About 6 weeks after the encounter, I started having symptoms of less appetite, tiredness, sore throat, and a mucusy cough that have been coming and going since then.  Still, not anything to judge from, especially as far as HIV.  I have had diarrhea 3 or 4 times since then, but each incident has been spaced out.

8 weeks after my encounter, I received a rapid HIV test (oral) just to be safe which came back negative.  I am taking this to be somewhat definitive, but will get tested again in a few months just to be sure.

I would not be worried at all since my encounter was relatively low risk and my test was negative, except for this: beginning about 3 weeks ago (approx. 5.5 weeks after my other encounter), I started having unprotected sex with a girl. This has happened about 10 times since then, but with no unprotected ejaculation, only precum.

However, about a week and a half after our first time unprotected, she began to complain of fatigue, lack of appetite, and dry cough. There could also be a fever present as well, but she has not taken her temperature. Now she has developed a noticeable rash. This has all persisted for the past week.

Is there any ANY reasonable chance at all that 1) I could have HIV that didn't show up with my 8-week test and 2) if so, I could have passed it along to her through precum and she got infected right away?
« Last Edit: October 12, 2012, 12:59:27 AM by wearegonzo »

Offline jkinatl2

  • Member
  • Posts: 6,007
  • Doo. Dah. Dipp-ity.
Re: My situation
« Reply #1 on: October 12, 2012, 01:22:27 AM »
Several major points to make here.

One: Your risk was on the lower end of high. It was lower only relative to unprotected receptive vaginal sex, and unprotected anal sex.

However, a negative result at eight weeks is all but definitive. Except that you are still having unprotected sex with a woman of unknown status. Until the two of you are in a securely monogamous relationship and have BOTH tested negative for STDs including (of course) HIV, then you should be wearing a condom. It's not WHO you do it with, only WHAT you do. Many people with HIV don't even realize they are infected, and for all you know you are exposing yourself to undiagnosed HIV over and over here.

You might have dodged a bullet as regards HIV, but were you aware that syphilis shares a three month testing window with HIV? Moreover, you could easily have one of the other, easily transmitted STDs like gonorrhea and chlamydia - both of these can be totally asymptomatic in males, but can cause considerable long term damage to females.

WHat I would recommend is that you wear a condom until the BOTH of you have gone through the three month testing window, test conclusively negative for STDs (including, of course, HIV) and have agreed to be in a mutually monogamous relationship.

You and your new girl are both taking HUGE risks with your health - and with one another's health. If you respect her, you need to wear a condom, at least for the next three months while you BOTH pursue STD testing.

Finally, dipping your penis in hard liquor is just a waste of hard liquor, unless you drank it after. Spraying with Lysol and dipping your penis in alcohol is hugely ineffective in preventing STDs after unprotected penetrative sex. In addition, it could make you vulnerable to a urinary tract infection by drying out sensitive tissues.

PLEASE wear a condom.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

Welcome Thread

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,138
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: My situation
« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2012, 07:27:34 AM »

Jonathan is spot-on in everything he said, so I won't repeat it. I just want to stress the fact that you REALLY need to wise up and start using condoms. It's not WHO you do, it's HOW you do it. Keep those three letters in the correct order when you're thinking about protecting your sexual health. It's imperative.

While you're highly unlikely to end up positive over the Craigs List woman (because of your eight week negative), the jury is still out where the woman you're dating is concerned. WISE. UP. Before it's too late.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

« Last Edit: October 12, 2012, 07:29:22 AM by Ann »
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts


Terms of Membership for these forums

© 2017 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.