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Offline hunter007

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Need Help !what sould i do ?
« on: September 15, 2012, 01:47:31 PM »
5 days ago i was with an escort ...i don't know if he is postive or negative
but he told me if i want unproteced sex there is no problem ...
he sucked  my penis for 15 min and licked my anus for may be 20 minutes
we kissed and he fingered me the i frotted my penis on his anusbut no anal intercourse .
after coming back home and doing my shower i see that i have a cut on my penis may be beucause he sucked me for long time and a little bit hard
i don't know if he has cuts in his mouth
i am very affraid especialy because he told me there's no problem if i want unprotected sex ..i'm really in very bad situation and i can't even sleep
what should i do , do i need to test
thanks a lot

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Re: Need Help !what sould i do ?
« Reply #1 on: September 15, 2012, 03:31:05 PM »
Nothing that you have done was a risk of HIV transmission.

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Re: Need Help !what sould i do ?
« Reply #2 on: September 15, 2012, 04:07:43 PM »
thanks a lot for your answer
but as i have said i've seen cuts on penis that night ,if he had cuts or blood in his mouth for example ! is it a risk !
and i'm really affraid because he accept to do unportected sex wich may be means that his is positive
thanks again

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Re: Need Help !what sould i do ?
« Reply #3 on: September 15, 2012, 06:20:11 PM »
His HIV status is irrelevant in this case because nothing you did put you at risk for HIV transmission. The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as condoms are always used properly for those activities you will be well protected.

No matter what details you throw into the mix, nothing you are reporting was a risk. Get on with your life.
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Re: Need Help !what sould i do ?
« Reply #4 on: September 15, 2012, 07:41:21 PM »
hi andy
i'm very happy that you respond me
so i forget the story of test?
i know i'm bothering you but because i'm worried
thanks again

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Re: Need Help !what sould i do ?
« Reply #5 on: September 15, 2012, 07:58:04 PM »
hi andy
i'm very happy that you respond me
so i forget the story of test?
i know i'm bothering you but because i'm worried
thanks again

There is absolutely no reason to test over this incident. I would be happy to elaborate if you wish :)

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Need Help !what sould i do ?
« Reply #6 on: September 16, 2012, 07:48:08 AM »

You ONLY need to test if you are a sexually active adult and you haven't been testing regularly. You do not need to test specifically over this oral sex incident.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

AGAIN, WHILE YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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