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Offline tness

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« on: September 02, 2012, 03:34:21 PM »
I had unprotected vaginal sex with a girl in Ukraine. This happend 27-28 of July. I know I should not have done it, but I was in such a bad shape mentally after a breakup.

I know she was not a prostitute, I had had some contact with her previously. But after the second time we had sex she threw a pack of condomes in my face, and started talking about HIV and AIDS. I freaked out, and I assumed that she was talking about her selves? I'm not sure because everything was a blur.
One week after I got sick, some cold, no fever, lasted for a week or so. Have been ok since that.

But I still think about her words, she even asked me if I wanted to jump of the balcony 11 floors down after she told me about the HIV/aids.
I tested 20 days after, the p24 antigen. Negative. But I will test again 3 months then 6 months, 12 months.

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Re: Worried
« Reply #1 on: September 02, 2012, 03:45:25 PM »
Didn't it ever occur to you that she was bringing up the subject of HIV/AIDS and using condoms because she also wanted to protect her own self?

As far as testing, if you test negative at 3 months you can regard that as conclusive and that you are HIV negative. Don't make this more complicated than it actually is.

Given what you have reported I would say the odds are in your favor that you will test negative. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Re: Worried
« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2012, 03:51:35 PM »
Frankly I was in panic the first week, after that I have been calm. But the way she talking about the subject made me worried. I have talked with her after this, and she has been exposed to many risk factors. She had some STI.

But I'm calm I guess.
Reason she was trusting me was that she knew about my past.

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Re: Worried
« Reply #3 on: September 03, 2012, 04:18:27 AM »

You need to understand that whether or not she is a sex worker is irrelevant. ANYONE can be hiv positive, even women who are not sex workers. You need to use condoms with every woman you have anal or vaginal intercourse with.

Saying that, even if she is hiv positive, the odds are definitely in your favour of continuing to test negative. Hiv is a fragile, difficult virus to transmit and is more difficult to transmit from a woman (receptive partner) to a man (insertive partner). Although your risk is on the lower side, you still need to confirm your negative result at the three month point.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

The hiv testing window period has been three months for years now. Provided you get a negative result at three months (and I expect you will), you will be conclusively hiv negative and will not need further testing over this specific incident.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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