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Offline utterlyridiculous

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« on: August 18, 2012, 12:14:19 PM »
hello all.   i decided to celebrate my birthday a couple weeks ago by seeing an escort in denver.  i found her on the internet and we met at her apartment.  we were having sex and i was checking the condom each time we changed positions.  towards the end i noticed something felt different and checked the condom.  to my horror it was broken.  i have never had this happen before so i am really freaked put.  i asked her about her status and she said she gets tested every 3 months and last negative was in july.  i went and got tested for hiv and other std 8 days after incident really just to catch up on my testing.  hiv was neg.  hiv neg but it was a terribke experience at testing.  they said that it would be 10 minutes for result and i sat there for 30 min freaking out.  then i heard someone in the hall say uh oh  lets retest that one.  really freaked me out.  i know i probably should test again but it was so terrible i dont know if i can.  i just would like to hear thoughts on my risk, testing etc.  thank you so much.  i never visit escorts and dont know what i was thinking.  hate myself or it.

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Re: mistake
« Reply #1 on: August 18, 2012, 12:26:25 PM »
You can obtain your conclusive negative test result 3 months post exposure.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: mistake
« Reply #2 on: August 18, 2012, 01:31:33 PM »
OK, let's just tone down on all the drama. A condom breaking is a low-level risk. It was only one time and you were protected until it broke. Further, transmitting HIV is much harder to accomplish from female to male than the other way around.

All of which points strongly in the direction that you will ultimately test negative at 3 months after the incident. You can test initially at 6 weeks. If you get a negative then that means you will likely continue to test negative.

I expect you to come out of this ok.
Andy Velez

Offline utterlyridiculous

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« Reply #3 on: August 18, 2012, 04:00:49 PM »
thanks for responses.  the nurse basically told me to not worry about it and to get tested during my physical i in february if i was worried.  i would have thought the risk of broken condom with a sex worker would be higher?  even if the exposure was brief.

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« Reply #4 on: August 18, 2012, 07:42:58 PM »
Well it is the wise thing to get tested. But I can tell you that I have yet to have anyone become positive from a broken condom incident. I am not expecting you to be the first.
Andy Velez

Offline utterlyridiculous

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« Reply #5 on: August 18, 2012, 10:44:02 PM »
hi andy   thank you.  i do fully intend to test again.  i know my 8 day test is useless except to rule out any previous encounters.  you mentioned you have yet to see someone test positive after a condom break?  why do you think that is?  i clearly dont understand the science as to how transmission oiccurs very well.   does it take a longer exposure, lots of virus or other for transmission to occur? thank you

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Re: mistake
« Reply #6 on: August 19, 2012, 09:15:31 AM »
Have you read our lesson on HIV transmission?

HIV is significantly harder to transmit from female to male than the other way around. The condom protected you until it failed. This was a single incident. All of that points towards the unlikelihood of transmission during that incident.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #7 on: August 23, 2012, 12:31:46 AM »
im starting to wonder if i have abnormal fears surrounding hiv and general anxiety disorder.  i wonder how many people would get as worked up as i am and even test over incident i described. i am going to test again for sure but i am having a hard time focusing on anything else even though i have been told relatively low risk incident.  i dont know if this makes sense but i guess im just wondering if i am experiencing such extreme anxiety and panic due to a disorder or is it normal to have extreme feelings of guilt anxiety etc over this type of incident.

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« Reply #8 on: August 23, 2012, 05:54:26 AM »

Wow, you must not have read any other threads in this section of the AIDSmeds forums, otherwise you'd know how worked up other people get over testing. You're not the only one.

I've been answering questions here since 2001 and I've yet to see the insertive partner end up hiv positive following a condom break. I, like Andy, do not expect you to be the first.

You asked, "i would have thought the risk of broken condom with a sex worker would be higher?" and here's your answer: People are not high or low or no risk, ACTIVITIES are high or low or no risk. It's not who you do, it's how you do it. Hiv doesn't discriminate and neither should you.

The "girl next door" is every bit as likely to be hiv positive as anyone else, and perhaps even more likely that a sex worker. Sex workers use condoms to protect themselves and their livelihoods. The "girl next door" is much more likely to use the Pill for contraception and not worry about STIs or condom use - or test regularly, for that matter. Think about it!

The earliest you should test again is at the six week point. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change. A six week negative should ease your mind.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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