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Author Topic: When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?  (Read 2324 times)

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Offline Mo_1990

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When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?
« on: August 17, 2012, 06:05:33 PM »
Hi everyone my name is Mo im 21
I was diagnosed this year 1st of may...still trying to cope with it.
its hard but life goes on i guess cant change the past
i was jut wondering im talking to this person right now...and im scared to tell them about my statues incase i get rejected so i dont know what to do...i need help wit that because i really like the person.

and also i was wondering how long do you think its right to have sex after being diagnosed last time i had any sexual activity was march this year and im still not ready but the person im seeing is pushing for it but i dont want to have sexwith anyone that doesnt know my statues so im really torn  :( :(

Offline LM

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Re: When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?
« Reply #1 on: August 17, 2012, 08:09:42 PM »
How long till it's "right" for you to have sex after being diagnosed?

Boy, you can go straight to a sauna from the lab with the ink of the "+" still fresh on your lab test, if you feel like it. I'm sure some people might have done that.

But anyway, you have to do it when you feel it's right for you. You're still the same person, if you wear a condom, you won't be doing anything bad or wrong.

As for disclosing, same thing: do it when you feel comfortable about it. Since you like this person, I suggest you tell in person and try to tell as if it was something natural. If you treat it as something out of this world, he may see it in the same way. Explain, educate, if necessary. And if he acts in a stupid way, it's his loss, not yours.

Offline RedBear

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Re: When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?
« Reply #2 on: August 26, 2012, 12:13:54 PM »
Amen to that!  Latest reports say that if you are undetectable there is a 96 % chance of passing the virus, not to say don't use protection.  Only do it when you are ready, and if he reacts badly then he's  either uneducated or just a jerk. 
Finish each day and be done with it.  You have done what you could.  Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can.  Tomorrow is a new day.  You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with you old nonsense. 

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Re: When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?
« Reply #3 on: August 26, 2012, 12:22:58 PM »
if you are undetectable there is a 96 % chance of passing the virus
NOT passing the virus ;)
« Last Edit: August 27, 2012, 11:23:26 AM by leatherman »
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Offline bear60

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Re: When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?
« Reply #4 on: August 27, 2012, 11:14:13 AM »
Have Mo sex.  lol
Seriously.....when you cant anymore, you'll be sorry you didnt.
Neuropathy doesnt just affect your hands and feet...it also affects your dick.
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Re: When is the best time to have sex after being diagnosed..?
« Reply #5 on: August 28, 2012, 11:22:59 PM »
The best time to have sex after being diagnosed:
1) when (you feel) you're ready
2) when you're relatively healthy (=your numbers are better; and after you've been vaccinated against hepatitisA,B, and maybe HPV)

Syphilis can be a problem, and using antibiotics prophylactically can be helpful* (doxycycline is safe for long term use, as evidenced in treatment of acne, and prophylaxis of malaria, but it may cause photosensitivity skin reactions).

Chemoprophylaxis is likely to be acceptable and could mitigate syphilis epidemics among populations of gay men.

Ceftriaxone and doxycycline could be suitable alternatives to penicillin in the treatment of early syphilis in HIV-infected patients. These two treatments have a concomitant effectiveness even for asymptomatic forms of neurosyphilis.
« Last Edit: August 28, 2012, 11:47:46 PM by elf »
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