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Offline rconejero91

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so scared, please help.
« on: August 04, 2012, 12:27:41 PM »
I was recently seeing someone who turned out to actually have a girlfriend. He was from ST Vincent's in the Caribbean.

I purposely did not have sex or oral sex with him as I didnt want to have any worry. However, there were a few things that I think may have put me at risk and would like to know whether im right and to what extent.

1. he kept biting my boobs and when I checked the next morning, one of my nipples had small cuts on it that had broken skin and if u dabbed with a tissue, there was blood on the tissue. If he had been sucking my boobs and had a cut in his mouth (obviously this is a possibility as I did not inspect his mouth) then could this have transferred hiv?
2. while rubbing his penis, he decided to stick his fingers in my mouth then rub the spit on the tip of his penis, where there was precum then do the same again. I often have cuts in my mouth so if the precum on his fingers had got into any of the cuts in my mouth then could this have given me hiv?
3. while he was fingering me, his nails cuts my vagina inside and out. As im sure many of u know, men like to rearrange themselves or just randomly check that their penis is still there and this guy did that alot. so if pre cum had got on his fingers during his rearranging then got into the cuts in my vagina, could that have transmitted hiv?

Im so scared and have been crying for the past 3 days since it happened. Please please help.

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Re: so scared, please help.
« Reply #1 on: August 04, 2012, 01:36:25 PM »
You can stop crying because you are worrying needlessly.

The ONLY confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as condoms are used properly for those activities you will be well protected.

Nothing you are reporting of the various activities and bites and whatever put you at risk for HIV. There is no need for testing nor for further concern. Get on with your life and just remember, condoms always for intercourse.
Andy Velez

Offline rconejero91

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Re: so scared, please help.
« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2012, 01:38:31 PM »
thank you so so much :)

Offline rconejero91

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Re: so scared, please help.
« Reply #3 on: August 04, 2012, 02:35:06 PM »
to clarify, would a large amount of precum or bleeding in the mouth be needed for transmission?

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Re: so scared, please help.
« Reply #4 on: August 04, 2012, 04:40:50 PM »
to clarify, would a large amount of precum or bleeding in the mouth be needed for transmission?

For one thing, HIV cannot remain infectious in the time it takes to exit the body, transfer to a finger, and enter your mouth. The point there is moot.

Even if you performed oral sex on him to completion, there's no firmly documented evidence that ANY transmission can take place within a mouth that isn't severely compromised (google "meth mouth")

If the images there resemble your mouth, then performing oral sex on a person might not be in either one of your best interests.

As Andy said, you are worrying needlessly.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline rconejero91

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Re: so scared, please help.
« Reply #5 on: August 04, 2012, 07:15:35 PM »
no no those mouths are really quite something else. thank you guys.


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