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Offline britchick

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What do you think of therapy?
« on: July 24, 2012, 11:36:31 AM »

I just had a counsellor phone me affiliated with the Terence Higgins Trust.
If anyone told me I would be using one a year ago, I would never have believed it.
I know its not for everyone....but it really helped me and they are arranging more sessions.Its totally confidential and not added to medical records in the UK.

Big ups to The Terence Higgins Trust for their support!!!!!!!!!
Any thoughts, anyone had counselling?


Offline Mishma

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2012, 02:51:53 PM »
I have and it helped me get through a very difficult and severe depression about 10 years ago. I was a basket case with suicidal ideations. Following hospitalization I was followed in counseling for about 6 months with my wife present. It helped us both tremendously. In the US the National Association for Mental Illness or NAMI sponsors  education classes for both those affected as well as their love ones in separate classes. In addition, the Veteran's Administration has helped my wife cope with my illness with classes and counseling as well. It may be it is not for everyone as you suggest but I suspect anyone with an open mind could benefit from counseling. Good luck to you as you go forward.

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Offline britchick

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #2 on: July 25, 2012, 03:29:03 AM »
Hi Mishma!

Thanks for that reply....I know that  I made a good decision re counselling.Im also glad that it helped you and your family.

Joining this site has also really helped me..........I am slowly getting the old me back....When you hit rock bottom there's only one way to go ...and thats up..onwards and up!!!!!!!!!



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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #3 on: July 25, 2012, 04:40:01 AM »
Hi Brit,

I've been in therapy a couple times.  The first time I was 16, forced into therapy, then the counselor ended up having sex with me (not good).

The second time helped tremendously, and I'm still in touch once in a while with my therapist.  He and his wife came to my graduation when I got my under-grad.  He saw me through my last horrendous relapse with addiction, in fact I started seeing him when I was first married to my second husband. 

I think it's an essential idea for people who are going through traumatic events, or ones disturbing enough to upset daily routines.  Good luck!
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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #4 on: July 25, 2012, 10:26:00 AM »

I have used therapy a few times in my life to help through some pretty difficult situations, including divorce and now adjusting to being +.  I have found it to be very, very helpful -- just the process of being able to verbalize the situation (thoughts, feelings, concerns, you name it...) and get some impartial and constructive feed back really helps.

I have found that 1.) you get out of it what you put into it - it takes some thought and work, you have to be willing to be honest with yourself and the therapist; 2.) you need to have the right therapist - some one you are very comfortable with and really understands the issues you are dealing with; and 3.) I prefer an active therapist -- someone who will tell me what they really think (even if it means I am part of the problem) and not just listen and nod.

I am currently seeing a therapist now to help me deal with the issues of being positive, and at some point I think i would like to join a support group (which is also a form of therapy) but I am not ready for that yet.  I am learning that the psychological transition is as important as the medical transition (for me anyway).

....that was a long winded way of saying yes, therapy helps allot.

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Offline emeraldize

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #5 on: July 25, 2012, 01:10:49 PM »
I have yet to meet a person who wouldn't benefit from some form of therapy! Hell, if they've got horse whisperers, dog whisperers and now cat therapists, is that not indicative that people whisperers can play a valuable role?

Sadly, as BT experienced, there are sick f**ks out there in the mental health world who take advantage of the situation and the patient. For the most part, a good one, be it an MSW, psychologist or psychiatrist, can be beneficial -- even if on a periodic basis to get you through certain issues, or problems.

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #6 on: July 25, 2012, 01:18:29 PM »
I'm on my fourth therapist in a period spanning about 12 years -- I'm kind of addicted in the Woody Allen mould. I've had gay men, straight men, and one woman (my current one) and I've like all of them except one. He wasn't bad, it was more that I didn't connect with his personality.
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Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #7 on: July 26, 2012, 12:52:15 AM »
I have been in therapy and found it to be very helpful. I use the tools I have learned almost every day. As others have mentioned it is important to find a therapist with whom you have a good connection. Different therapists can have very different styles and methods so when you first meet with a therapist explain what you are looking for and ask how they will help you.

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #8 on: July 26, 2012, 01:02:32 AM »
I have gone to therapy over other issues like my partner passing. I  never thought to go to therapy over coping with my HIV status.  This thread has inspired me to start looking into it.  I wish  there were more  live support groups in my area (Jacksonville) so I could talk and socialize with other HIV + people. Although not therapy. I think this would be the best kind of support for me to receive. 
Just looking to socialized with like minded people.

Offline britchick

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #9 on: July 26, 2012, 04:51:03 AM »
Hi BT65,Jmarksto,emeraldize,Miss Philicia,GSOgymrat,Bbnb!!!!

Cheers everyone for your replies....seems like there's a lot of good work going on out there.BT65,Im so sorry for what you went through.

There are no support groups near where  I live.....so this board is  my support group...and its working!!!!!!!!!!!



Offline weasel

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #10 on: July 27, 2012, 08:51:59 AM »
Hi all !
     I love a good psychologist , At the moment I do not have one , the VA
 goes through them like sands in an hour glass  :o
  I  like the ones that talk as if they were friends . The nodders  get on my nerves , nodding and writing their notes to transcribe later , or worse the ones that TYPE everything as you speak and ask you to slow down  ::)
  I loved my last therapist , she just retired , She had so many incites  to why people are sad , depressed , high anxiety , or just a grump .
   I have used many of her ideas !  The best advice was watch what you eat .
  I love HIV support groups  :)     , although they do not take the place of therapy, they are so much fun . Ours is very nice and is only a 130 mile round trip .


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Offline britchick

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Re: What do you think of therapy?
« Reply #11 on: July 27, 2012, 09:55:12 AM »
Hi Weasel!

Cheers re your advice.Im trying to keep eating healthier too!
Im happy re counselling by phone....as  I feel like im back at school if im sat in an office talking face to face ..........phone makes it easier!!!!!



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