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Offline ctsvv

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scared to death ... non-risk exposure but ...
« on: July 03, 2012, 07:09:09 AM »
Dear all ,

i would first thanks for all people in this  forum who are trying to help other people

and secondly sorry for my writting ( not good English but i hope it will be understandable )

my story is as following : -

i had two exposure in  my entire life

first one was in September 2009
rubbing vaginal girl using condom , the girl known on having multiple relations lesbian and men (This exposure concern me more ) ( no  Penetration  ) only outside

Second one in may 2011
girl perform oral sex on me ( sucking my penis without condom ) for 4 min ( she tested negative after 4 months of this exposure ) and tested negative 2 month before the exposure )

the systomps I'm having so far :-

1) 2 months ago ,  cyst in earlobe ( right ear )  not very big like 1 cm in size
i kept playing with this cyst which lead to ear infection ( i don't know if this true) ( lymph node behind  that ear swollen for 12 days )
and since that time , I'm having feeling like water in my right ear with actually no water in it , no wax blocked !!  , i went to many doctor to check my ear
they checked it and found white patch in my ear drum ( The strange thing i got the water  feeling only if i think about it !! one of the doctor pointed that my ear dry !! now is getting better but still feeling water sometimes !!

2) 2 palpable lymph node in my shoulder (The clavicle) both right and left ( more than 4 months scary
Very small ones and you cant see them unless you search for them > i went to doctor and told me these very small to concern about and i should not keep touching them !!
i do alot of bike exercises every day like 2 hours ( 45km every day ) which could be the reason not HIV !!

The reason I'm scared to death that in internet i did  research and result came back as lymph node in The clavicle is a sign of HIV !!

well ...
the good thing back in 2009 after the first exposure i had  no ARS systomps for about 3 months

i need help please .....

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Re: scared to death ... non-risk exposure but ...
« Reply #1 on: July 03, 2012, 07:48:13 AM »

You have not had a risk for hiv infection. Not in 2009 and not in 2011.

Any genital to genital rubbing (what you did in '09) is not a risk for hiv infection, even if you did not wear a condom. Rubbing of this type is called frottage and frottage is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Getting a blowjob - with or without a condom - is not a risk for hiv infection. Saliva is not infectious.

The only proven risks for hiv infection are unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse, sharing drug injecting equipment, and from mother to baby in the womb or during birth.

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. It has NOTHING to do with hiv.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER A BLOWJOB OR FROTTAGE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: scared to death ... non-risk exposure but ...
« Reply #2 on: July 03, 2012, 03:12:29 PM »
Thanks Ann for your information ..

Getting a blowjob - with or without a condom - is not a risk for hiv infection. Saliva is not infectious. 

but if there is blood in her mouth ... will change the risk measure ??

im getting crazy :(

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Re: scared to death ... non-risk exposure but ...
« Reply #3 on: July 03, 2012, 03:37:05 PM »
Thanks Ann for your information ..

Getting a blowjob - with or without a condom - is not a risk for hiv infection. Saliva is not infectious. 

but if there is blood in her mouth ... will change the risk measure ??

im getting crazy :(

There is no caveat to the statement that "getting a blowjob is no risk for HIV."

It has never, ever in the 30 plus years of following the pandemic, been documented.

You have had no risk.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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