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Offline human

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could i have been exposed to HIV?
« on: June 26, 2012, 09:13:31 AM »
my ex boyfriend called me this morning to tell me he has HIV. but to add a little background to this. i broke up with him a few weeks ago because hes a liar and ever since he has been trying to get me back. i broke up with him once before and he said everything under the sun like i gave him herpes or hes gonna kill himself and lastly he told me that he had HIV but then when i met with him in person he said he just said that to make me talk to him, that was a few month ago.

i just had a negative HIV test last month and me and him had been together a year at that point and he told me all his tests have been negative too. i wouldnt answer his calls for almost a week till he told me he had HIV. when i asked him how he found out he told me the doctor called him when he was on his way to the airport yesterday and told him. i asked how he got it and he said his ex wife from 3 years ago must have had it and it just now showed up positive on his tests.

I try to talk to him on the phone but he acts like hes crying and cant speak and then hangs up. hes been doing this all day now and its real annoying because i want to know if he is telling the truth or not. shound i be concerned or just assume hes lying again because i just had a negative test.The only reason im even a little concerned is because we had sex maybe 4 times since my negative test.
he called me this morning to tell me that he had to go to the CDC to register because everyone with HIV has to do that. is that true?

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Re: could i have been exposed to HIV?
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2012, 09:26:47 AM »
This situation is all messed up and I suggest keeping things simple.

If you and your maybe ex-bf have had unprotected vaginal and/or anal intercourse, then you ought to get tested. You can get a conclusive result at 3 months after the most recent unprotected incident.

For future reference you need to know that you should never be having unprotected intercourse with anyone until if and when you find yourself in a securely monogamous relationship in which both partners reliably test negative together. Until then condoms are a must every time for intercourse. No exceptions.

And no, an HIV+ person does not have to "register" with the CDC.
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Re: could i have been exposed to HIV?
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2012, 09:56:25 AM »

In some states you have to talk to the local health department after receiving a positive diagnosis, but certainly not the CDC.

As Andy said, you should test again as you have had unprotected intercourse since your last negative result and you can't be sure if this guy is telling you the truth or just trying to emotionally blackmail you.

The earliest you should test is at six week following the last time you had unprotected intercourse. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

What he said about getting it from his ex-wife three years ago and it only causing a positive test result now is pure bullshit. As I said above, most people will test positive by six weeks after infection has taken place, and everyone will test positive by three months. If he's now positive after many negative test results, he got it recently. Or he was lying about his previous negative results. This guy sure is a piece of work!

It sounds like you're better off without this loser. I'd block his calls if I were you.

You really need to learn from this and stop having unprotected intercourse with people about whose hiv status you cannot be 100% sure. That's a great way to end up hiv positive.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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