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Author Topic: Im terrified, Scared Father Please Help  (Read 1850 times)

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Offline chipj

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Im terrified, Scared Father Please Help
« on: June 19, 2012, 11:56:02 PM »
I had an exposure with a woman insertive vaginal and had a broken condom. I am in the process of going through testing and tested negative at 8 weeks via ELISA. I was also told at this time I have been exposed to herpes in the past I did not find out whether it was 1 or 2. I never knew that I had this and now realize that when I got that occasional pimple stinging lips whatever thats what it was all this time. I have children.

I am worried more for my children that I am for myself at this point so here is my question. Assuming that I was positive could I pass this on to my child during the ars period of high viral shedding to my child by kissing him on the lips??? My son is still young and doesnt always fully make a pucker and so his lips are wet. I'm really scared shortly after my bout he came down with a headache and fever followed up by a hacking cough for 2-3 week, blisters or pimples on his lips and around his mouth and then what seem to be psoriasis type plaques on his elbows that were not there. Also itching scalp nose eyes and ears like I am. He is young and has a few teeth coming in. Please help me, I am terrified that my mistake may have ruined his life. I can't bare the thought that I inadvertantely infected him.

My logical brain says so many people would have been infected this way but my parent brain is screaming uncontrollably and having a tough time being logical about it.

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Re: Im terrified, Scared Father Please Help
« Reply #1 on: June 20, 2012, 05:15:21 AM »

I've yet to see the insertive partner end up positive over a broken condom during vaginal intercourse and I do not expect you to be the first.

Your eight week negative result is not going to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week (or more) negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

Kissing is not a risk for hiv infection, regardless of your viral load or the presence of herpes. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

Even if you were positive (you're not), the only way you would infect your children is if you have unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with them or share drug injecting equipment with them. But you're NOT poz.

The only thing you might give your kids is your head cold or flu or your herpes. Up to 80% of the population have oral herpes, so chances are they'll get it sooner or later anyway.

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