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Offline robin1234

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HIV feared - Many Symptoms
« on: June 18, 2012, 06:29:50 AM »
I had protected vaginal sex with a Thai lady working in a massage parlor about 40 day ago. I don't remember any issues with the condom but I know the condom was slightly bigger than my size.

I gave/received oral sex on 3 different occasions over the same period. I ejaculated in her mouth twice. She swallowed semen and licked my penis head many times even after the ejaculation on every occasion. I have a semi-healed herpes just at the base of my penis and had a cut right on my penis head. It was not bleeding. The oral sex was very violent and passionate.

The HIV status of the lady is unknown and given her behavior I observed I can not trust her much. She told me she is clean of any HIV. There is no sign of a symptom in her body (visible symptoms).

Exactly on the 20th day after my last exposure I developed a swollen lymph node under my left cheek and another one under my left armpit. My tonsil was slightly swollen as well. I had pain in my left calf muscles. It was painful at times and I felt like vibration in my left leg when standing. I also had a mild fever and a mild sore throat. Had loose motion for few days and lost appetite completely.

This is killing me now. It is 40 days after above incidents now and my lymph nodes have disappeared after 10 days of appearing. I am still feeling pain in some of my joints and muscles.

I also had sex with a number of time with my wife after the above incidents (without realizing HIV of course :( ). It is 30 days after my last exposure with my wife and today she is having a sever sore throat and fever. She is also having back pains and pain in joints and loss of appetite.

* Given the nature of my exposure, how likely is me infected with HIV?
* I know oral risk is low risk but, mine was different because of my herpes and the cut. Does this add to the likelihood of transmission of virus?

Please reply me. I am totally stressed out and it is killing me.

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Re: HIV feared - Many Symptoms
« Reply #1 on: June 18, 2012, 07:32:42 AM »

Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom and regardless of cuts or having herpes present, is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

However, a "semi-healed" healed herpes lesion IS infectious to the person you're exposing it to. Congratulations - you gave your herpes to that woman. And you think you can't trust HER? Keep your damn herpes to yourself. You should NOT be letting someone come into contact with your herpes whether the outbreak is just coming on, is in full swing or is semi-healed. You should be ashamed. Stop spreading your herpes!

Giving a woman oral sex is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Protected intercourse is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection and you do not need testing over this specific incident.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER GETTING A BLOWJOB, GIVING A WOMAN ORAL OR PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline robin1234

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Re: HIV feared - Many Symptoms
« Reply #2 on: June 18, 2012, 08:17:01 AM »
Ann, I am terribly sorry if she ever gets herpes from me. I was not aware of it. My herpes are almost healed.

My penis head (urethra) got touched multiple times on the upper linings of her mouth. I read over the internet that HIV virus is present in that specific layer. Does it add to my risks?

How about my symptoms? I never experienced swollen lymph node in my armpit in my entire lifetime. I am 30+ now.

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Re: HIV feared - Many Symptoms
« Reply #3 on: June 18, 2012, 08:43:11 AM »
None of the details you are adding about your urethra will change the bottom line that getting a blowjob is absolutely not a risk for getting HIV. No risk. Period.

Swollen lymph nodes happen for all sorts of reasons that are not HIV-related. You should be discussing the matter with your doctor if it persists. You have not had a risk for HIV so there is no need for testing about it or for further concern on your part. Get on with your life.

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Offline robin1234

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Re: HIV feared - Many Symptoms
« Reply #4 on: June 18, 2012, 12:37:48 PM »
Andy, thank you for your reply.

Sorry I missed to mention one major fact. I was not wearing a condom during BJ. Therefore, my whole penis was inside her mouth.

What about if she had blood in her mouth? I had vaginal sex protected but oral was unprotected.

Beside all above I also sucked her nipples a few times and fingered her many time.

Is fingering considered a risk? It happened about 40days ago and back than HIV was not in mind therefore, I did not check whether I had any cuts on my fingers.

It was all these symptoms that lead me to think about HIV. But that started happening about 3 weeks after the incidents therefore, I don't really remember minor details such as whether I had a cut in my fingers.

My symptoms are so similar to ARS and I am really stressed. Pls assist with the following points. Thank you in advance for your great help.

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Re: HIV feared - Many Symptoms
« Reply #5 on: June 18, 2012, 12:51:12 PM »
Neither getting a blowjob or fingering, no matter what caveats you add, constitute a risk for HIV. Not in any way. Not in the slightest. Not once in thevrecirded history of the pandemic. I do not doubt for a moment that you are special. But you can't be *that* special and be comprised if the sane stuff as other humans. Whatever is happening to your body, you can absolutely rule out HIV.
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