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Offline anon99

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another worried
« on: May 05, 2012, 05:05:09 AM »
hi guys,

i'm starting to freak out over 2 incidents i had a couple of months ago, both with women i had just met (i'm a guy). both involved unprotected oral and vaginal/anal fingering (in one of the incidents with a cut around 2/3 days old on finger too), but no sex with either. i know you guys say that those activities are generally not a risk for HIV but do you think a test is necessary at all?

thanks for reading!

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Re: another worried
« Reply #1 on: May 05, 2012, 05:25:03 AM »

No, you do not need to test specifically over these no-risk incidents.

Neither getting a blowjob nor going down on a woman (aka cunnilingus) are risks for hiv infection. Not one person has been infected either way and you're not going to be the first.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Fingering, whether it be anal or vaginal, is also not a risk for hiv infection and it doesn't matter if you have cuts or whatever on your fingers. Not one person has ever been infected through fingering and again, you aren't going to be the first.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER FINGERING, BLOWJOBS OR CUNNILINGUS, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline anon99

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Re: another worried
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2012, 05:08:17 PM »
thanks ann,
like most people posting here, the onset of flu like symptoms/swollen glands etc (even months after an encounter which could be attributable to anything) can trigger anxiety with regard to hiv, especially when there has been sexual encounters in the past that the person is not particularly proud of!

i suppose im no different and for whatever reason, perhaps a poor couple of weeks health wise, - i seem to have got it into my head that the 2 incidents i described earlier have put me at risk (even though there was zero contact at all in terms of sexual intercourse) - and have consequently put me into a bad place, mentally. i have read some of these threads so many times I could probably write your response for you and I know you have given me good advice already just wanted to vent a little!

peace, anon

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Re: another worried
« Reply #3 on: July 02, 2012, 04:47:41 PM »
apologies if this was asked a million times before ... but what is your thinking around around sex toys?

in that if a girl was pleasuring herself briefly with a vibrator then immediately rubbed it against my balls and anus (no penetration) would this constitute a risk insofar as hiv is concerned?


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Re: another worried
« Reply #4 on: July 02, 2012, 05:47:06 PM »
HIV is a fragile virus. It is not passed from environmental surfaces including sex toys and yes, including if it had been dripping with your partner's vaginal fluids.

Non-risk. Non-risk. Non-risk.
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