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Offline bettiebee

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Real Risk
« on: April 21, 2012, 01:25:30 PM »
My bf of three years is positive. He is not on meds. We were having vaginal sex last night, protected of course. We finished, but we kept fooling around. He then put on another condom and we started again. Must have been having sex for less than 20 seconds when he noticed the condom broke. He doesnt know if he pulled out right away when he felt it pop. Chances are he most likely did. He thinks he did, but isnt sure. He noticed it because we were going to change position. I'm still in the time frame to seek out help.What should I do? Is PEP something I should seek as soon as possible?

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Re: Real Risk
« Reply #1 on: April 21, 2012, 04:34:12 PM »
Hi Bettie,

Yes, that was a risk but what I consider to be a relatively low level one. It was a single incident and from what you have described a brief one. And you were protected until the condom broke.

Figuring into what you decide I'll also mention that HIV is easier to transmit from male to female than the other way around. 

You are still within the window period for PEP. It needs to be started within 48-72 hours after a risk, and the earlier the better. You can go to your doctor or any emergency room where they can get you started.

Is your bf's health being monitored? Do you know his viral load numbers? If he has very low or undetectable VL, that makes it less of a risk. 
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Re: Real Risk
« Reply #2 on: April 21, 2012, 04:52:50 PM »
Thank you for the reply. If he immediately withdrew his penis right after the condom broke, would you still recommend me to seek out PEP?

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Re: Real Risk
« Reply #3 on: April 21, 2012, 06:02:31 PM »
It's certainly what I call a very low level risk. A brief insertion, condom breaks and no ejaculation. Yah, low level risk.

But the decision has to be yours of course. 
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Re: Real Risk
« Reply #4 on: April 22, 2012, 07:31:18 AM »

I agree with Andy that this is a very low level risk. It sounds as though he realised right away - and importantly, he didn't ejaculate in you. It's up to you whether or not you take PEP - but I really don't think it's warranted in this situation.

Keep in mind that if you do take it, you will be taking some very powerful meds. It will also extend your testing window period by one month for a conclusive negative result.

Regardless of what action you take in this instance, I would recommend you both sit down with his doctor and discuss what should be done if something like this happens in future. Your boyfriend may also consider going on meds, as this will greatly reduce his ability to transmit the virus.

Good luck, keep us posted.


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