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Offline yann32

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receptive anal condom break
« on: March 26, 2012, 02:30:50 PM »
Hi all thanks for reading.

Yesterday I was receiving anal sex and the condom broke towards the end on the side. We noticed and finished outside (he did not ejaculate inside of me).

I'm scared. I've booked for a testing 6 weeks from now. Realistically how scared should I be? He claims he is clean and plays safe. This wouldn't qualify for PEP would it?

I've only had a few sexual partners in my life. Just my luck.

Thanks again.

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Re: receptive anal condom break
« Reply #1 on: March 26, 2012, 03:19:16 PM »
First up, please don't use "clean" to describe someone's HIV status. It's very offensive. It suggests that those of us who are HIV positive are in some way dirty. I have HIV and I object to that characterisation.

As for your situation, unless the condom broke such that part or all of his load was left inside you then you were not at risk for HIV infection and do not need to be tested.


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Re: receptive anal condom break
« Reply #2 on: March 26, 2012, 03:33:25 PM »
I sincerely apologize for using that adjective suggesting such a dichotomy. I was repeating his words and did not mean to offend anyone out there.

Its possible that precum may haveleaked from the tear. Should I be worried about this to my extent? (I'm losing my mind!)

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Re: receptive anal condom break
« Reply #3 on: March 26, 2012, 03:38:01 PM »
I sincerely apologize for using that adjective suggesting such a dichotomy. I was repeating his words and did not mean to offend anyone out there.

That's ok. I know you didn't mean to be offensive and that you will be more thoughtful in future.

Its possible that precum may haveleaked from the tear. Should I be worried about this to my extent? (I'm losing my mind!)

Provided the part of the condom covering the head of his dick was intact when he pulled out you were protected.

Given that you are sexually active you should be having a full sexual health screening at least once a year. Twice is better. If it's been a while since your last screening or if you've not had one before, you should visit your doctor or local clinic.

Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread. It contains links to our lessons on HIV transmission.



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Re: receptive anal condom break
« Reply #4 on: March 27, 2012, 07:09:46 AM »

It sounds like you weren't using enough water-based lube. Not using enough (or any) lube is one of the leading causes of condom failure.

The other leading cause is having an air bubble in the tip. When you put a condom on, you need to pinch the tip between the thumb and finger of one hand, while rolling it down with the other hand. Once it's on, give it a firm stroke from tip to base while watching the tip. If there's air in there, you'll see it. If there IS an air bubble, roll it back up and try again.

Once it's on and there's no bubble in the tip, apply plenty of water-based lube. When you're bottoming, you can either watch your top to make sure he's doing it correctly, or you could put it on him yourself. With a little practice and imagination, you can make the process of putting a condom on part of your foreplay, rather than an interruption.

A correctly used condom rarely breaks, so please make sure you or your top puts the condom on correctly and use plenty of lube. Also, please read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can learn all you need to know about condoms.

Like Matty, I also expect you to test negative, but you'd be wise to test to be certain. Get a full STI panel while you're at it. Mark the date down in your calendar so you know when you're due for another routine check-up. You should be doing this once or twice a year - it's what responsible, sexually active adults do.

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