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Offline manchesteruk

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Feeling a bit down
« on: September 25, 2006, 06:03:48 PM »
I wasn't going to post this because I feel like an idiot for thinking it but I just wanted to get it off my chest.

A month ago I felt brilliant i'd just got myself a new job things were looking up and yet for the past week and for absolutely no reason at all i've been so down it's been horrible.  I feel like I have nothing to look forward to and nothing to be happy about.  Now the wierd thing is in another week I know i'll be fine again.  I've never had to put up with mood swings like this before until I was diagnosed I suppose it's something i'll have to get used to.  A side effect of HIV the doctors don't want to hear about I suppose!
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Offline jack

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #1 on: September 25, 2006, 06:51:23 PM »
you aren't alone.  Lexapro is the way to go.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #2 on: September 25, 2006, 07:08:04 PM »
Good to get it off your chest and this is the place to do it. The ups and downs are par for the course.

If you can't think of anything else to do make a list of 8 things you are grateful for. Amazing what a difference it can make in shifting things.

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Offline IzPoz

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #3 on: September 25, 2006, 07:13:35 PM »

You will have your ups and downs, with or without HIV.  You said you recently started a new job.  This is considered a "life changing event", one in which can put you through all the emotions that a negative change will do.  It's normal, you are human after all.

Last year, you were diagnosed.  I assume all this is still sinking in with you.  That's ok.  Take the time you need to adjust to it, then move on to the next step.

As long as you continue to move in the right (positive) direction, your down days will come fewer and further between.

Try exercising and keeping your mind busy.  Start a project at home, or outside, and keep focused on that.  Read a few books, write poetry... whatever helps you get through this rough patch.  Talk to a friend or two, borrow their shoulder to cry on.  And get a good cry in too!!

Just remember, alcohol and recreational drugs will only enhance your depression, so try to curb that if you are partaking in those activities.

I hope you get through it quickly.  Being depressed is not fun.

Chin up, cheer up... and be well.
The reason angels can fly is that they take themselves so lightly. ~ Chesterton G. K.

Offline fearless

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #4 on: September 25, 2006, 07:48:14 PM »
Hey Chris,

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way. We understand.

I've just started seeing a therapist. I knew I was not depressed but my anxiety about what may or may not happen in the future was paralyzing me. I lost all motivation and self confidence and was cutting myself off from the world. The therapy, much to my surprise, has been really helpfull in refocussing my thoughts and feelings back to the here and now and what I can achieve. I'm slowly but surely stopping to project out my fears and anxieties into a future that may never be.

It's good to get those things off your chest here, but if you find your feelings start to take over your thought patterns and effect your daily life perhaps consider seeking some professional help.

All the best.

Be forgiving, be grateful, be optimistic

Offline Eldon

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #5 on: September 26, 2006, 12:55:58 AM »
Hey Chris,

I agree with Steve. Anxiety can be the cause of your situation. Then again, it could be a slight depression that you are in. Lexapro is good for handling that. However, I am not a Psychologist. If the problem persits and you start to get irritable, please DO check-in with a therapist to discuss your situation.

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Offline heartforyou

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #6 on: September 26, 2006, 04:26:56 AM »
Hi Chris,

May I suggest you start by NOT FEELING GUILTY about having moodswings.
I have been fighting them for a long time. And I've come to accept them. It's hard, yes I know.

IZpoz and fearless said it all.

May I add a couple of suggestions, but first of all, may I hug you warmly as you are a sweet human with his heart on the right spot.

Try to accept your emotions as they are at the moment. If you remember that feeling great will not last then know that feeling down will not last either. Live your feelings.

Try to be aware of the PRESENT more. Do it by breathing in and out very consciously. At the same time concentrate on what you do. That helps to also control negative emotions when they tend to take over.

And most  important of all : no law says that we have to accomplish certain things in life. As simple as it may sound : you are fine the way you are. Don't let people push you into being someone or accomplishing something.

Maybe googling "mindfulness" will help.

Baby, don't worry. You are a pupil in the school of LIFE. And learning is what we all do the most. IF we are prepared to accept the process of falling and standing up again.

Hermie :)

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Offline RapidRod

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #7 on: September 26, 2006, 04:53:22 AM »
Chris, it's okay to PMS every now and then. No since letting the girls here use that excuse exclusively.  ;) If you are really having a battle with it, say something to your doctor. Like HIV, depression is an illness and there is no reason to let depression continue to enter into your life. If you are a techno person, then you would enjoy bio-feedback, it works.


Offline david25luvit

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #8 on: September 26, 2006, 07:30:33 AM »
Fear not for you are in good company....Mood swings seems to go hand in hand with HIV and the meds
so don't hesitate to get it off your chest so to speak.  I too find myself feeling much the same as you do.
I do believe that when we accept our shortcomings/ idiosyncrasies /conflicting emotions and bring them into
the light, we begin the journey to understand ourselves.  Please know you are not alone...and hang in there.
You Are In Good Company.........your family.

Hope you feel better soon............{{{{{{ Sending lots of positive vibes your way }}}}}}
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Raymond David McRae III
Nov. 25, 1972- Oct. 15, 2004
I miss him terribly..........

Offline poobear

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #9 on: September 26, 2006, 11:12:03 PM »
Hi Chris,
   I am glad I found your post.  I have had a tough day with feeling a bit down.  Alot of good suggestions and you are not alone.  I was going to post but I think your post has helped me for now.  So I thank you.  I hope this passes for you soon.  we are in this together.  Big Hug to you. Rachel

Offline Life

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #10 on: September 26, 2006, 11:27:17 PM »
Read the the next page Chris...


Offline newt

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #11 on: September 27, 2006, 02:44:41 AM »
My dear man in the north

IzPoz says many sensible things. 

You are, really, at the end of an era, having successfully completed college and found a good job (plus brilliantly weathered an HIV diagnosis etc).  "Now what?" is a good question.  I remember feeling much the same when I started working after uni, cos I'd done what I was supposed to do, but...what did I really want to do with my life?, and where are my friends? etc etc. So I think at this point in your life it's natural to feel flat, or out of sorts, or depressed even.  Plus it has put you into a whole new set of sensible "9-to-5" relationships with people.  It's a big change all this.

You can't have something to look forward to without a plan, goal etc, and the routine of work, however brilliant the job, is, quickly I think, rather flattening to the spirit and discourages dreaming.

I assure you there is loads to look forward to, maybe you just can't see it just now. Maybe it's the wrong time to see it.  I believe good plans come from being out of sorts with the world, boredom etc.  When I was where you are, this is when I discovered swimming.  Apart from the physical benefits on mood, it was great thinking time, and it was while swimming I decided to jack in my dream 80s job in ad copywriting (ahem, in the Midlands, so I was deluded), move to London and  go into mental health social work (many of my  big decisions seem to have been made in swimming pools or the gym, hmm..)

Chin up, good luck mr

- matt

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #12 on: September 27, 2006, 03:44:57 AM »
Hey Chris,

I agree with Newt, physical excersise works for me too when this kind of things happen. I go running. And it does happen now and then. For periods of some days I wouldn't think about medication. It sounds absolutely normal to me, even though it is not pleasant.


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Offline manchesteruk

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Re: Feeling a bit down
« Reply #13 on: September 27, 2006, 03:38:27 PM »
Thankyou for the great advice everyone you are all amazing.  I've got to say Matt raised a few points there I hadn't really considered and they really make sense.  I've been thinking about it and i've decided to work in an office until i've paid off some uni debts and in the meantime have a serious think to see if I can actually work out what I want to do with my life, not as easy as it sounds!  Thanks again everyone I really honestly appreciate all your advice it's invaluable.

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