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Offline scaredts

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help pls... worried..
« on: February 25, 2012, 07:54:25 AM »
hi.. i just discovered this forum. Im a pre-op male to female trans

i had tonsilitis/strep in sept. 18, 2010, as well as very high fever and on the 2nd day of the very high fever i became a bit red like i had measles for the night which disappeared the next. after 4 days the fever was gone and i went to the doctor and he gave me antibiotics because he thought i had strep/ tonsilitis. Around 10 or 11 days before that i surely remember giving unprotected oral sex to a man i did not know well. he ejaculated a little in my mouth and i always thought that i was safer to swallow than to spit it out so i did. I remember the date correctly because it was on a trip out of town and i had pics. I have never liked anal sex, it has never turned me on and the closest i could come with that was the guys penis touching my ass but not penetrating me, and the last encounter like that was around june but with a different partner.

at the time of what i considered as symptoms i never really gave it much thought but i was able to attend a tg seminar last year while on vacation to asia and it opened my eyes on all stds and hiv. then i remembered getting that strep/ tonsilitis and fever and i am so scared that it might have been a symptom of zero conversion. Ive never been seriously ill since that once september 2010 except gastritis in november 2010 which the doctor diagnosed have been cause by excessive crash diets/yoyo-dieting to lose weight and having mild coughs and colds during winter. i also had dermatitis in june 2011 and february 2012. Im originally from asia and moved to north america and not really used to the cold winters.

can i please have your thoughts on this? thank you so much.

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2012, 08:04:32 AM »

Neither symptoms nor the lack of symptoms will ever tell you a single thing about your hiv status. ONLY testing will. A test at three months (or more) past your last incident of unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse will be conclusive.

It doesn't seem as you've ever had a risk, unless you've had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse that you've neglected to tell us about. Sexually speaking, the only confirmed risks for hiv transmission are unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse.

If you're sexually active and have never had a full STI screen, perhaps you should have that done. It's what responsible sexually active adults do at least yearly. Some of the other much more easily transmitted STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the ONLY way to know for sure is to test. UNLIKE hiv, some of the other STIs can be transmitted through simple skin-to-skin contact.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2012, 08:25:32 AM »
thank you so much Ann.. i think ive been too paranoid, but i guess its better to be paranoid than careless right? ive always thought that the only anwer to my question is if i get tested. but im so honestly just have chickened out a couple of times, and needed to hear reassuring words. thank you again for your reply.

and yes i honestly have had multiple oral partners but just oral. i had the penis to ass humping with no penetration with 3 other guys but that was months before the tonsilitis/fever. and the only people who had penetrated me was an ex boyfriend of 2 years but i had an hiv test before migrating as part of the medical exam requirements and i had tested negative and another guy that i dated  just honestly once for a about 5mins but that was months after the strep/tonsilitis and fever. the sexual activity that i had posted on my first post, was the unprotected oral with ejaculation was the only risky activity that happened in the time frame of 10 weeks before my strep/tonsilitis and fever. i am absolutely not denying anything and telling you the whole truth as i want to hear honest opinions and wouldn't want to add more worries to myself and stress..
thanks so much miss anne.

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2012, 09:39:23 AM »
Scared, it seems you did have that one brief unprotected anal incident after you tested negative. If I understood that correctly, then it's a good idea to remove any doubts you have and get tested.

Hopefully you'll collect another negative result. And now you know what you need to do to protect your health in terms of HIV in the future.

Good luck with that.
Andy Velez

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2012, 11:07:29 AM »
hi andy thanks for the reply..
that brief anal incident happened a year after i tested negative and about 2 months after the strep/tonsilitis/fever.. i only got tested for immigration medical requirements and not because of the strep/tonsilitis/fever..

when i had strep/tonsilitis/fever, i did not know that they appear as symptoms during sero conversion.. i only read about that after i attended a tg seminar and googled hiv symptoms.. that was what got me scared. the only high risk sexual activity that i had before the strep/tonsilitis/fever was the uncovered oral with a little ejaculation which happened 10/11 days before. i had penis(his) and anal (mine) touching with no penetration and uncovered 2 and a half months before the strep/tonsilitis/fever..
and this strep/tonsilitis/fever happened september 18 2010.. thats around a year and 5months now, during this period from sept.2010 to present, i didn't have any serious illness except for gastritis in nov.2010 (due to excessive crash dieting/diet pills/and yoyo dieting), cough and colds during winter season, dermatitis in june 2011 and feb 2012..
am i at high risk of hiv?

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #5 on: February 25, 2012, 11:13:37 AM »
Keep it simple. Instead of worrying and wondering, why not just get tested, collect what I expect will be a negative result and put the issue to rest. That's my suggestion. HIV is not something to guess about.
Andy Velez

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #6 on: February 25, 2012, 11:28:45 AM »
thank you so much andy.. you are right. only a test will end my worries.. thanks for the reassurance.. God speed..

Thank you to ann as well.. and im wishing you guys all the best, and praying for good things for all of us..thanks!

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Re: help pls... worried..
« Reply #7 on: February 25, 2012, 02:21:15 PM »
OK. Good luck with your test. Keep us posted.
Andy Velez


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