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Offline JustNeedAdvice

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I just need some advice. Thank you.
« on: February 14, 2012, 12:20:57 PM »

First, I would like to thank those of you who answer questions here. It really is a time of anxiety when a sexual encounter happens and one believes that they did something that could put them at a greater risk of contracting HIV. With most of the sites out there, we are told that acts such as deep kissing are a risk.

I have read through the forums. It seems my situation is similar to some and that I am not at risk, but there is a level of reassurance from getting that answer directly. So, thank you.

Last week I had sex with a woman using a condom. Actually, I used three different condoms. In the process of changing the condoms, she fingered her vagina and anus. She even gave me oral while I had the condom on. At the end, the last condom slipped off. However, when I went to retrieve the condom it was still sticking out of her vagina. After that she gave me oral without a condom and finished me off.

My concerns:

I believe I touched her vaginal fluids and then touched my penis. I think I may have even touched her fluids and then touched the inside of my condom as I put it on.

She obviously touched her vaginal fluids and anus (deep fingering) got them in her mouth when she gave me oral with the condom on. Then while she gave me oral at the end she masturbated me with her hands.

The condom slipped out at the end.

I promise not to go on and on and on as I'm seeing some posters do. I understand their anxiety, but I'll trust your advice. Thanks again.

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Re: I just need some advice. Thank you.
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2012, 12:37:13 PM »
None of the things you described put you at any risk for HIV infection. HIV is far too fragile to remain infectious for the length of time outside the body you describe, and of course getting oral sex is not a risk.

In short, this is absolutely NOT an HIV situation.
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: I just need some advice. Thank you.
« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2012, 12:39:11 PM »

You have not had a risk for hiv infection and you do not need to test specifically over this situation.

It doesn't matter if you had vaginal fluids on your hands. They could have been dripping in fluid and it wouldn't matter.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body. Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, fluids on your hands would not be able to infect.

Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is not a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. Not one person has EVER been infected through getting blown and you will not be the first.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER ANY OF THE ACTIVITIES YOU BRING TO US, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline JustNeedAdvice

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Re: I just need some advice. Thank you.
« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2012, 04:30:26 PM »
Thank you jkinatl2 and Ann.


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