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Author Topic: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex  (Read 2067 times)

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Offline GmanC

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Hello all,

Ive been reading this forum for the past 12 hours or so and found it very helpful. I am really hoping that you can alleviate my anxiety, though I'm otherwise educated and are aware of the absolutely numbers.

I am a 34 year old guy and was having sex with a CSW here in the L.A. area. Had the condom on, but I guess now without adequate lube. I entered her from behind (anal) and felt a pop almost right away and withdrew my penis 1-1.5 seconds later and saw that the condom had popped. Got up right away, removed the condom, made myself urinate (in the toilet) for a good 10-15 seconds and applied lots of 70% alcohol to the head of the penis (some went into the urethra as i felt a minor burn).

So, my possible exposure was no more than 2 seconds which consisted of the initial thrust when the condom broke and the withdrawal. Thats all. I have taken the HIV test 2 hours later and it was negative to establish a baseline.

So now are freaking out of the possibility of contracting HIV. She said that she is tested every 2 weeks and was last tested wednesday, but not sure if i can believe her (first encounter). Are my chances realistic give that exact sequence of events

Do I do PEP now? Its been approximately 18 hours ago. PLEase please please HELP!

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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #1 on: February 08, 2012, 01:42:59 PM »
The urination and alcohol (!) are completely useless things when it comes to STD prevention. Just for future reference.

What you had was an extremely LOW RISK incident. If you want to test in three months for peace of mind, that makes sense. But it is unlikely IN THE EXTREME that you would acquire HIV from this incident.

Other, more garden-variety STDs are more possible.

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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #2 on: February 08, 2012, 02:06:28 PM »
Just chiming in to say that I agree completely with JK that your risk during that brief exposure when the condom broke was minimal.

It's a good idea to confirm your negative status at 3 months, if only for your peace of mind. And yes, given what you have reported I expect you to test negative.
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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #3 on: February 08, 2012, 02:14:08 PM »
Thanks so much guys. Really appreciate it.

I know its hard to quantify risk exactly, but would you say that its pretty much NIL (i.e. as good as winning the lottery)? Thanks so much.

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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #4 on: February 08, 2012, 02:23:57 PM »

Yes, winning the lottery is a good analogy. PEP is NOT warranted in this case.

Aside from the lack of lube, when a condom breaks on the first thrust it's usually due to a trapped air bubble in the tip. You need to pinch the tip with the finger and thumb of one hand while rolling it down with the other. Once it's on, give it a firm stroke from tip to base while watching the tip. If there's air in there you'll see it, in which case you need to roll it back up and try again.

And you already realise that you need to use plenty of water-based lube, particularly for anal.

I also expect you to test negative, but you do need to test to know for sure.

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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #5 on: February 08, 2012, 11:43:01 PM »
Thanks very one. Really appreciate it.

I still can't let go of the idea that it's possible, which is why  getting back to PEP.

Offline GmanC

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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #6 on: February 08, 2012, 11:44:18 PM »
To the idea of PEP, I mean

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Re: Please Help.. Freakign out. Condom broke at the start of anal sex
« Reply #7 on: February 09, 2012, 05:18:39 AM »
To the idea of PEP, I mean
nPEP is recommended when the sex was with a known positive partner.


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