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Offline clair0

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Im really messed up right now..help
« on: January 09, 2012, 06:14:50 pm »
Hi everyone,i came on this forum and have found some really helpful info.my dilemma is i just found out in december i was hiv+ .i was 35 weeks pregnant  (decided to get tested later) and my vl was quite high therefore had baby 3 jan by csection ,im formula feeding and shes on meds for 6 weeks..however i couldnt tell my hubby as i didnt know how to  and all i kept thinking was 'hes gonna leave us' and also because he has a bit of a temper..anyhow the doctor decided she wants to keep the baby in neonatal for observation and her kidney and liver functions came back ok and not affected by the meds.

because my husband was getting too anxious at the staff and the doctor as to why they are keeping her and i have also decided to tell him tomorow in front of the gu consultant so he can explain a lot more..im soooo scared as to how he will react because of his temper.and the doctor said she wont release my daughter until i give disclosure and even after they have to make sure he wont be violent at home towards me and only then can my daughter be released..i feel so powerless and alone ..any words of encouragment or advice is helpful


Offline Snowangel

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Re: Im really messed up right now..help
« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2012, 09:36:24 pm »
HI clair0-
Congrats on your baby girl! This is such an exciting time!

Last month you found out that you were positive and this month you gave birth to your daughter. That is A LOT of stuff in a short period of time.

You are in the best place to be right now. You have people to support you when you tell him about something you had no idea exsisted till last month and it affects  you and possibly your daughter.  The doctors can answer all his questions and if doesn't ask them, you ask what you want to know.
 Try to stay calm.  You are the best advocate for your child and you want what is best for her in the long run, trust your gut.

Good Luck, I wish strength and courage for you in the coming days!
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Offline next2u

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Re: Im really messed up right now..help
« Reply #2 on: January 09, 2012, 10:12:51 pm »
Hello Clair,

Be sure to post in the womens forum as well, our ladies are really great. Congratulations on the baby girl!

Do you know if your husband might be positive? Do you have a support system outside of the hospital and your husband?

I'll let the others weigh in before commenting as I have not been in a situation comparable to yours. I hope this works out well for you and your family. Take it one day at a time and please stay in touch.

Kind regards,
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5
sept14 cd4 990; vl ud; cd4% *
jun15 cd4 1152; vl ud; cd4% *
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Offline TabooPrincess

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Re: Im really messed up right now..help
« Reply #3 on: January 19, 2012, 02:31:53 pm »
Hey Clair - congratulations on the birth of your baby!!  Did you have the AZT drip at birth?  I wasn't un-detectable at the birth of my boy 2 years ago (although I was on medication and close) and he's fine now, I did the same as you - C, Section and formula feeding.  Have you had the first result back yet?

As for the husband, if his reaction is violent when you've just given birth to his child then perhaps you need some space away from that so you can concentrate on your little girl.  This is a scarey time  - I nearly went crazy in that first month with worry and fear.  Keep talking, we'll help all we can xx
09/ 2008 - Seroconversion
11/2008 - Tested pos, cd4 640 vl 25400
12/2008 - cd4 794 vl 27798, 35%
03/2009 - cd4 844 vl 68846, 35%
06/2009 - cd4 476 vl 49151, 33% (pregnancy confirmed)
08/2009 - cd4 464 vl 54662, 32%
Started meds for pregnancy (Kaletra, AZT, Viread)
09/2009 - cd4 841 vl 3213, 42%
10/2009 - cd4 860 vl 1088, 41%
11/2009 - cd4 771 vl 563, 38%
12/2009 - cd4 885 vl 151 42%
Discontinued meds after baby born
02/2010 - cd4 841 vl 63781, 38%
05/2010 - cd4 1080 vl 113000, 39%
08/2010 - cd4 770 vl 109242
12/2010 - cd4 642 vl 111000, 34%
06/2011 - cd4 450 vl 222000, 33%
11/2011 - cd4 419 vl 212000, 24%
03/2012 - cd4 280 vl 118000, 26% (repeated Cd4 at 360)
05/2012 -cd4 360 vl 99,190
10/2012 Atripla, cd4 690, vl 80
12/2012 Darunavir, norvir, truvada, Cd4 680, vl u/d
07/2013 cd4 750,ud


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