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Offline arenbee

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Anxiety is killing me thinking about..
« on: November 23, 2011, 03:52:11 PM »
I had unprotected sex with a girl I trusted..just to later find out she was deceitful and manipulative..We had sex twice. The first time i was inside of her, literally for about 15-20 seconds before I pulled out and let off a load lol

The 2nd time, about a week later...She was giving me oral sex, and just got on top of me.. I didn't feel comfortable because I felt it was a mistake the first time to do it without a condom..So I pulled out after about the same, but maybe 20-30 seconds..

I know I had precum..I usually develop that just being aroused by a woman lol

She was pretty wet both times...And wasn't really too tight..So I doubt that I "stretched" her out to the point to cause tears in her vagina. She was not on her period either time....And the first time, I performed oral sex on her, and did not see any kind of sores or anything of that nature.

Around that time, I developed a head/chest cold that was going around..The whole group of friends suffered, as I actually think the kids passed it on to everyone.

But I rarely get sick. So I assume I have a strong immune system. I usually only get 1 or 2 bad colds per year...and thats it. Maybe a slight sinus drip when seasons change, but I rarely actually get sick. So I look at that as a good thing.

A little over a year later, I fell into a relationship with an awesome girl.. She understood how I felt used and manipulated by the previous girl..and she was just great. We dated for a little over a year. And I loved performing oral sex on her. We had unprotected sex a couple times as well, though I never came inside of her, despite her being on birth control. We came to find out she suffered from yeast infections and even a UTI one time....But I never noticed anything.

I use to smoke a lot of cigarettes...so any rawness, or soreness of my throat, I would believe cigarettes were the cause. Well I've been smoke and drink free for well over 1 month...But my throat still hurts. It doesnt hurt like when you have a sinus infection....But its somewhat of a rawness, and stressed feeling. When I talk for an extended period of time, I feel that my throat is just so stressed.

Upon looking at my throat with a flashlight, I see 1 small white spot on one of my tonsils....I got worried it could be thrush.........But I see no difference anywhere in my mouth. Just that one spot on my one tonsil..but my throat does seem to look irritated and red.

I was thinking, maybe its possible I performed oral sex on my last girl friend while she had a yeast infection, and it passed to my mouth/throat/esophagus..

But reading online, I've found that most yeast infections that occur in the throat/esophagus occur mostly in people with cancers, and HIV/AIDS.........So you can see my concern here.

Again, I have not been sick since last October (2010)...and before that I was sick with a head/chest cold I previously mentioned in June of 2010..Same month I had sex with the first girl I previously mentioned.

I'm worried that the first girl may have passed something on to me, that I could have possibly passed on to the love of my life without knowing.....I'm filled with anxiety at this point and just wanted to ask here, because many of you, for what I've read so far, are very educated on this subject.

Does any of this sound like HIV? Or maybe I just have a yeast infection in my throat, that can be due to HIV....but could just be the simple fact that my ex girlfriend passed it to me during oral sex..and I have nothing really to worry about since a yeast infection is easily cured.

Any information and additional knowledge on this would be greatly appreciated.

I have since learned my lesson, and never want to put myself into a position where I think this way again. I pray that nothing is seriously wrong with me...Thank you for your help.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Anxiety is killing me thinking about..
« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2011, 04:39:34 PM »
Your cumming or not inside of a partner is totally irrelevant in terms of any risk to you. However, unprotected vaginal or anal sex is definitely a risk for HIV and you need to stop doing that. The only time you can give up using condoms for those acitivites is when you may find yourself in a securely monogamous relationship in which both partners have reliably tested negative together.

Otherwise you need to be wearing a condom everytime you have intercourse. No exceptions.

HIV is harder to pass from female to male than the other way around. But low risk is not the same as no risk. So you need to stop putting  your health and your life at risk.

Get tested at 3 months after your most recent unprotected incident for a conclusive result that hopefully will be negative.

There is nothing in any way HIV specific about any of the symptoms you are reporting. If they persist you should discuss them with your doctor. We also recommend that anyone who is sexually active ought to have a full STD panel done at least once a year. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

Good luck with your test.
Andy Velez


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