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Author Topic: What is the risk of transmission from this situation? Please help.  (Read 1880 times)

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Offline Cookie500

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Ok so I'm quite worried about an encounter that I had a few days a go. It was a pretty foolish thing to do but at the end of the day it happened and now I just want to know what people think of the risk factor.

I am female, and a few days ago I had an unprotected encounter with a male friend who identifies as gay, but this was a one off that happened. Basically we had been stimulating each other and then he put the head of his penis against my vagina as if he was going to enter it, I could feel him pushing against it for a few seconds and then he took it away, he did this about 3 times…'edging' I suppose. All in all there was no ejaculation and he didn't really enter me I know, but what about pre-cum? I don't recall there being a large amount from me stimulating his penis, or even any at all, but I know it's not always visible, and I am aware it can contain traces of HIV but what is the risk in my situation, say if it was on the tip of his penis that he pushed against my vagina?

He has told me previously that he is HIV negative and is tested every 6 months but I can't help but be concerned in case he may've contracted it without realising since his last test maybe. I have to wait 4 weeks before getting a test done but in the meantime just want to know what people think, I am worried and needed to discuss it.

Thank you for your help.

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Re: What is the risk of transmission from this situation? Please help.
« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2011, 08:42:09 AM »
Cookie, there is a world of difference in terms of risk in terms of rubbing/frottage and actual penetration. As long as you are certain he did not penetrate you, then there was no real risk in the situation you have describing. Rubbing or frottage is not a risk for transmission.

The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as condoms are always used for those acitivities you will be well protected against HIV.

There's really no need for testing in relation to this incident unless you feel you want the inevitable negative result simply for your peace of mind.

This is not an HIV situation.
Andy Velez

Offline Cookie500

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Re: What is the risk of transmission from this situation? Please help.
« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2011, 09:28:59 AM »
Hi Andy

Thanks for your response and help, really appreciate it.

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Re: What is the risk of transmission from this situation? Please help.
« Reply #3 on: October 29, 2011, 10:12:47 AM »
You're welcome. On with your life now and keep those condoms handy to use everytime for intercourse.
Andy Velez


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