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Author Topic: Frottage? Precum near anus? Rimming? Risky??  (Read 6000 times)

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Frottage? Precum near anus? Rimming? Risky??
« on: September 28, 2011, 11:02:37 AM »
Hello friends,
I'll try and keep it brief.
I had a one night stand with a guy of unknown status.

Through the night I noticed he had a lot of precum. At one point he then started rubbing his dick very near my arse. I am a virgin. I am pretty sure he didn’t penetrate me because everyone tells me I would definitely KNOW if he did. And I felt no pain. And I remember clenching to prevent him entering. But he was definitely uncomfortably close. Perhaps there's a chance he got too close.

I am worried though that precum would have gotten on my anus. I am confused about where exactly the “danger area” starts? Is the pink skin and anus opening considered a mucous membrane? Or does full penetration have to happen?

Would the HIV in his precum have died by the time he did this? (it would have been a few minutes after i saw he had precum.. although of course there could have been more)

And finally, after this he then rimmed me. Is it possible when rimming me he could have pushed the precum up into my arse?

We never had proceeded to anal sex, just oral which I know is pretty safe, and he never ejaculated.
So is this low risk or no risk?

Thank you so much !!

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Re: Frottage? Precum near anus? Rimming? Risky??
« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2011, 11:47:09 AM »

You have not had a risk for hiv infection.

Frottage is not a risk for hiv infection, not even when precum is present.

Yes, you would have definitely known if he penetrated you.

Being rimmed is also not a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect.

It would not matter if he pushed some precum inside you with his tongue.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! Read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them correctly and with confidence.

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Re: Frottage? Precum near anus? Rimming? Risky??
« Reply #2 on: September 28, 2011, 12:40:08 PM »
Thank you Ann. This has really put my mind at ease. I have spent the last few days desperately looking up per-act transmission statistics!
I will now put the issue to bed..


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