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Offline Scaredintoronto

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Scared and curious about early symptom details...
« on: August 23, 2011, 07:15:02 PM »
I am a 25 year old gay male and on July 3 of this year I had unprotected sex with a friend. We discussed eachother's status prior to having sex and because he was a friend I trusted what he told me. During our sex which was strictly penetrative and involved no semen, as neither of us came from the sex, i acted as penetrative top. Roughly about 5 - 6 days after sex I noticed a slight discomfort on the right side of my groin. Upon personal examination I felt a small lump under the surface.

Originally, I thought it was a strain or pull as I had had slight trauma to the area several days before and simply decided to wait for it to dissipate on it's own. About a week after that a tightness developed throughout my lower abdominal area but the lump remained isolated to the right side with no additional symptoms.

Towards the end of July, roughly 3 weeks after the encounter I noticed both groin lymph nodes had brine swollen and hard. Although, during certain times of the day such as morning and night the swelling would decrease or be completely no exisistant. I did notice I developed a major migraine and smaller headaches around this time.

A week later I developed slight nausea, but never actually threw up. It lasted about four days and went away. I got scared enough to go to the doctors a few days later. He examined my lymph nodes and said, "if they are swollen it is very deep and could barely be felt." He sent me for urine tests to look for other sexually transmitted infections after I admitted I had recent new sexual partners, but he never suggested an HIV test.

The results were negative on the testing I had done but shortly after my doctor visit I developed muscle and joint pain. I feel it along the flanks of my chest, under my armpits, around my funny-bone and elbow. Just yesterday I found I had a slight discomfort in my neck and the nausea has returned to stay.

My questions are:

Was my initial symptom of the swollen right inguinal gland too soon after infection?

If my body was fighting an infection would I also be suffering from stronger symptoms such as fever and general swollen glands?

Do symptoms gradually appear overtime? Ex. Swollen glands then weeks later followed by nausea and various other symptoms?

Do the symptoms ever leviate? I have now had these symptoms for almost 8 weeks?

I do plan on visiting the doctor for followup, but I am out of the country for work and have tonsil with my anxiety until I get home. I guess I just needed someone to talk to - even if only virtually.

Appreciative of any feedback.

Thanks so much

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Scared and curious about early symptom details...
« Reply #1 on: August 23, 2011, 07:21:26 PM »
None of your symptoms are in anyway HIV specific. And you need to know that neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms will ever tell you anything accurately about your HIV status. When you have had a risky experience, and yes, unprotected intercourse is definitely a risk, then you need to get tested at 13 weeks afterwards to get a conclusive negative result.

In fact the only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. The risk is somewhat less for the insertive partner than the receptive one, but low risk is not the same as no risk. And I have known many positive tops who mistakenly thought being a top meant no risk.

It doesn't matter how well you think you know someone. Even a well meaning person may for a number of reasons not know their HIV status accurately. So until such time as you may find yourself in a securely monogamous relationship in which both partners have reliably tested neative together, until such a time you have to make sure that the insertive partner is always wearing a condom.

From what you have reported I would think there is a good chance you will test negative. Just don't be risky again.
Andy Velez

Offline Scaredintoronto

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Re: Scared and curious about early symptom details...
« Reply #2 on: August 23, 2011, 09:58:43 PM »
Thanks Andy for getting back to me so quickly.

I completely agree with everything you have stated and I intend to have my situation looked at by a health care provider. As I stated I am just out of town and feeling nervous and wanted to speak to people who were more educated on the topic.

I was wondering if you could speak a little more in-depth about the questions I stated. I recognize that my actions were not the brightest, but regardless I can't change it. This I'd why I was curious about the onset of early symptoms. I know they can be vague, confused or even unexperienced by some. I just thought that in those people that had symptoms there may be similarities in the timing and severity.

I know that symptoms are not an indicator, I guess I'm no different than anyone else scared about having one or two symptoms. The web can just be a very confusing place.

I tried to find a forum about real life people discussing their experience with early symptoms but I couldn't.

Anyways, like I said thank you for your response and if you have a chance to speak more specifically about some of the things I mentioned earlier - that would be fantastic.


Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Scared and curious about early symptom details...
« Reply #3 on: August 23, 2011, 10:13:18 PM »
There is nothing more to say about symptoms in a responsible way as a means of knowing status. The symptoms which are often worried about resemble so many other problems and/or very often someone who is infected has symptoms which are so mild as to pass unnoticed.

So getting tested is the only way to really know your status. The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the very smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after an exposure. So you can test initially at 6 weeks. A negative at that point is a strong indication that you will continue to test negative at 3 months.

Andy Velez


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