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will die soon?
« on: August 14, 2011, 09:44:20 AM »
Dear Doctor,


I had two sex encounters with a prostitute in Thailand 28 days back. Both times it was protected sex. Before I got the condom on, she applied some gel ( unsure about whether it was water or oil based) on my penis to make it work as lubricant. One time she sucked my penis while the condom was on. We kissed gently on the cheeks and the second time we softly touched our lips. Both times before the sex, we had a shower and the last time after the sex I did not have a shower. The girl looked pretty healthy and appeared to be taking good precautions. I did not have any cuts that are visible; neither did she so far I can tell.

My regrets:

1. I did not check the condoms. However, I have a faint memory that when I took them off with tissue papers they were intact. So may not have slipped down or broken

2. I did not take a shower after the sex during the second time.

3. She applied that lubricant to her vagina first and then to me.


I came back and within five days I had a fever of 102 degrees. After that time the fever subsided.

So far no rashes,

Mild soar throat but not sure whether due to long flight or sudden change of weather ( I used air conditioning initially and then stopped). So the sore throat is gone

No swollen lymph nodes.

No fever later.

No diarrhea.

I feel hungry a lot.

My blood pressure is generally 105/65.

Recently I have been diagnosed with a cervical spine problem and therefore has some real pain in the neck, back sometimes in the thighs. Unfortunately it is therefore confounded with any pain in these areas that may have been induced by hiv infection.

No problem during urine passing

Perhaps lost 2-3 kilograms

Two white mildly painful ulcers on the tongue

I cannot even sleep these days thinking I must have contracted HIV. I am looking pale thinking I have contracted the virus.I cannot sleep and therefore taking heavy doses of sleeping pills. I cannot concentrate on anything. I live with my wife. I fear I am going to infect her by living under the same roof.

My questions are:
1. What is my chance of contracting HIV or/and any STD?
2. When should I get tested?
3. What tests I should do?
4. How many tests I must do to arrive at a reliable conclusion, either way.
5. what precautions I should take not to infect my wife? I am not having sex with her since the possible exposure.
6. If I test positive, I will lose my job? That's a question and a fear I have which persuades me not to get tested. Should I get tested?

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Re: will die soon?
« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2011, 11:30:18 AM »

I don't know when you're going to die, but I can tell you right now that you are not going to die of hiv any time soon - you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection.

Protected intercourse is just that - protected. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

If the condom had broken, you would have known. Broken condoms are obvious.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY FOR HIV OVER PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Condoms are a girl's best friend

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