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Offline worried100

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Help needed for me now
« on: July 25, 2011, 03:16:04 PM »
You all have been great with advice for my husband, now i wonder if you could help me?

I live in the UK and under treatment under the GUM clinic.

My Doctor in the GUM clinic keeps hassling me for my doctors information, i dont want to tell them, there is a big problem you see.

If i tell my G.P it will go on my records, that is not a problem but what is, is that any bloodwork/smears needed to be done for other purposes will go to the labs to be tested.

I know everyone at those labs as i use to work there. I know they are not allowed to talk about it but i dont want them to know. My mother also works at this place.

I just dont know what to do.

I can only register with a doctor who is in my area but the whole of my area goes to this place for testing :'(

Any ideas? This is starting to worry me again as the time for my appointment is coming up in about four weeks time and she is going to go on again!!


ETA My name is quite unusual and they will know that it is me.

« Last Edit: July 25, 2011, 03:26:57 PM by worried100 »

Offline EggMan

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Re: Help needed for me now
« Reply #1 on: July 25, 2011, 08:15:11 PM »
The UK has different guide lines and laws then the USA so its hard to make a suggestion on what you can do.
One thing I can suggest is (if its worth your privacy) is a name change and keep that to yourself. "if that is a possibility there"

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Re: Help needed for me now
« Reply #2 on: July 25, 2011, 10:03:56 PM »
You are entitled not to tell your HIV clinic your GP's name. They are under pressure to get this info cos it's an auditable outcome for the clinic and also it means they can charge your GP for your care. But you need not tell.

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Re: Help needed for me now
« Reply #3 on: July 27, 2011, 10:12:33 AM »
Worried, do you have a good relationship with your GP? If you do, you might want to talk to him or her about keeping the hiv info off your records. I did this with my GP years ago when I wasn't quite as open about my status as I am now, due to my daughter's request. The lay staff at my GP's surgery are well known gossips and at least one of them was the mother of one of her friends. I worked with one of the women's husband for a while years ago and he was constantly telling me stories that his wife told him.

My GP was more than happy to keep my hiv info between the two of us and as far as I know, it still is not on my official record with him. (it doesn't matter now, my daughter no longer has concerns about people knowing) Every time I go over to Liverpool for hiv stuff, I receive a letter in the post a few weeks later that I can show to my GP to keep him up-to-date - and it is up to me whether or not I show it to him. Your hiv clinic cannot send any information to your GP without your express permission and you can request that any such correspondence be sent to your home address instead.

And as Newt says, you are under no legal obligation to give your hiv clinic any information regarding your GP. However, it would be good for your GP to know this information so s/he can give you the best care possible. It doesn't have to go on your record.
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