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Author Topic: Scared to death.. I really really need help  (Read 1873 times)

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Offline SoulMan

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Scared to death.. I really really need help
« on: July 15, 2011, 11:29:10 AM »

so 8 months ago, i remember it was on thanksgiving last year so it would be around november of last year.. i went to a whorehouse were i had unprotected blowjob.. after that i went to another whorehouse where i had protected vaginal sex.. the prostitue put the condom on me, my penis was not hard veery much so it was hard for us to have sex.. i remember we were having sex in one position and after we were done i took my penis out and the condom kinda slipped upwards, but the head of my penis was still covered.. after that we continued to have sex in another position and after we were done.. she checked the condom while it was on my penis to see if any cum came outside.. which i remember that nothing came out of it, so im guessing the condom did not break..

ever since then ive been so scared.. i didnt have symtomps.. i did go through a fever in january, but after that ive never been sick.. and ive been fine ever since then.. when i think abt it i tell myself maybe the condom did break and i forgot, idk.. im so stressed out i cant sleep..

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Re: Scared to death.. I really really need help
« Reply #1 on: July 15, 2011, 06:28:45 PM »
You didn't have symptoms because you never had an exposure.

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Re: Scared to death.. I really really need help
« Reply #2 on: July 15, 2011, 11:46:02 PM »
How can you be so sure? its killing me the condom like i said moved a little bit.. is that dangerous?

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Re: Scared to death.. I really really need help
« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2011, 01:47:18 AM »
How can you be so sure? its killing me the condom like i said moved a little bit.. is that dangerous?

How can we be so sure? About thirty years' worth of credible science, actually. A condom is designed to protect the urethra, the tip of your penis, from external interference. This makes a condom better suited to protect you from the extremely fragile HIV than other more robust bacterial infections like syphilis and chlamydia.

HIV is extremely difficult to transmit from female to male. It can and does happen, of course. But only during unprotected sex. The sex you had was protected. You cannot get HIV from even a slippery condom.

Or let me rephrase this. If you DO, then prepare for a lifetime of scientific scrutiny and probably free health care, because you will provide the first instance in history of this happening.

I submit that you are stressed over having sex with a prostitute, and consider HIV to be a punishment for your supposed transgression. It is not. It is a virus. Nothing more or less.

You realize that many if not most of us who reply on this forum are HIV positive ourselves. Do you think we, that anyone, deserves to be infected?

I submit that no one deserves to be infected with anything. HIV, HPC, HEP, the infirmaties of old age, coronary disease, et al. No one deserves to be ill. No one deserves to die, a small (but growing) list of mass murderers excluded. One of the things that human beings do, an evolutionary trait, is the desire, sometimes obsession, to perceive patterns out of chaos.

We look at the sky and see stars. Our brains turn those stars into horsemen, crabs, water-bearers. We seek correlation AND causation at the same time. Which is sometimes our downfall. and it the very reason why the Scientific Method is so important.

That Scientific Method has shown the conditions by which HIV is transmitted. And it is not promiscuity nor is it visiting prostitutes. HIV is spread when certain viral particles infiltrate certain, very specific cells in the human body under the most ideal conditions.

Your case meets none of that criteria. You cannot get HIV from the activities you described.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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