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Offline snoopywong

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Worried! Should I be?
« on: July 04, 2011, 12:30:30 PM »
Hi all,

I've been reading the posts here on this "Am I Infected" forum and understand that receiving oral sex (i.e. a blow job) as a guy is safe. However, in my spare time I began reading the "I Just Tested Poz" and it seems that there are some people that claim to have contracted HIV by oral sex only. That got me worried, and prompted me to post here to get your opinions.

I am a guy and basically what happened was that I visited an establishment in China. One of the sex workers here started me off with UNPROTECTED oral sex (a blow job), followed by PROTECTED vaginal sex (lasted only 2-3 minutes), then UNPROTECTED oral sex (another blow job) and finally finishing me off with a hand job. The protected vaginal sex was with a condom she had supplied (I'm not sure of the brand, condition or quality), but I am sure that it did not break.

I am not aware of the HIV status of this sex worker.

Should I go get an HIV test at the 6 week mark (and confirm it at the 3 months mark)? Should I be worried?

Thanks in advance!

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Re: Worried! Should I be?
« Reply #1 on: July 04, 2011, 12:42:44 PM »

No, you should not be worried about getting a blowjob in terms of hiv infection. Not one person has ever been infected this way and you won't be the first. When you see someone claiming to become infected through blowjobs, they are normally talking about GIVING blowjobs. Even giving blowjobs is strictly theoretical in terms of hiv risk.

Some people cannot bring themselves to admit to having unprotected anal intercourse, or indeed any receptive anal intercourse at all. Sometimes people forget what they actually did while under the influence of drink and/or drugs. When people claim to have been infected this way, it is called "patient report" and patient report is notoriously unreliable.

What IS reliable are the results of the three studies of serodiscordant couples. One of the studies went on for ten years and all together, the studies involved hundreds of couples. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

You do not need to test over getting a blowjob, nor do you need to test over protected intercourse. However, we do recommend that any sexually active adult gets a full sexual health check up at least once a year.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER A BLOWJOB OR PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline snoopywong

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Re: Worried! Should I be?
« Reply #2 on: July 05, 2011, 12:38:17 AM »
Thanks for the prompt reply Ann.

When you see someone claiming to become infected through blowjobs, they are normally talking about GIVING blowjobs. Even giving blowjobs is strictly theoretical in terms of hiv risk.

Out of curiosity and thirst for knowledge, is there a distinction to be made between receiving a blowjob and giving a blowjob, in relation to HIV risk? Does giving blow jobs carry a slightly higher "theoretical" risk?

HIV tests are free from where I come from so I may very well take the test for the "peace of mind".

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Re: Worried! Should I be?
« Reply #3 on: July 05, 2011, 03:58:35 AM »
HIV is not transmitted by Oral sex of any type.

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Re: Worried! Should I be?
« Reply #4 on: July 05, 2011, 08:41:19 AM »
As far as giving a blowjob is concerned, your saliva has over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV. Although from time to time there are reports of transmission through oral sex, those never seem to hold up under careful examination.

Caution does dictate that if you have a freshly bleeding and gaping wound in your mouth that would not be the moment to give someone a blowjob. But then you would unlikely to be doing so under that condition. Longterm studies have been conducted of sero-discordant couples, both gay and straight. They had lots of mutual unprotected oral sex and only protected vaginal and anal intercourse. To date not a single sero-negative partner has become infected.

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