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Author Topic: I need your opinions  (Read 1218 times)

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Offline Carla

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I need your opinions
« on: April 23, 2011, 06:47:24 AM »
In August 28 2010, I met a guy that I have been chatting with for a year. we live in 2 different countries and we've met in Turkey.
After our meeting, where we engaged in unprotected anal sex WITH ejaculation (not so clever eh?),
things have started to change between us.I thought that I could trust him knowing that he told me he tested negative for HIV 1, 2 a year before our encounter and he hasn't been fooling around and weíve been chatting and talking on a daily basis and I didnít feel anything suspicious.
Anyway let's jump to facts because they are the only indicator of my situation.
I felt so worried after the encounter especially when things have changed so I was thinking that maybe he has been hiding something, probably an HIV infection (irrational fear maybe? I hope! ).

Exposure: August 28-29 2010

I tested negative:

**HIV 1, 2 almost 4 weeks after the possible exposure (Elisa 3rd generation) - October 3rd 2010
**HIV 1, 2 beginning the fifth month after exposure which is January 5 2011(Elisa 4th generation)
**HIV 1, 2 March 15th- around 6 1/2 months after possible exposure.(Elisa 4th generation)
**HCV, HBV negative March 30 2011.

P.S. Iím 22- Female. I do not inject drugs (never did), I have been pretty healthy expect for some common flues during winters- Iím only saying that just in case of a late seroconversion case.

I do know that with modern tests, we can get a conclusive result around 4-6 weeks after possible exposure. Iím well aware of all those facts but since my risk was very high- the highest in fact- somehow I still have this worry-perhaps itís a guilt feeling- and I tend not to fully trust my lab results.
I would really appreciate your comments regarding my case. This period has been very hard for me- I can barely focus on my work and life since then (Iím a banker so you can imagine the efforts I am putting at work in order to avoid any tiny mistake).

Thank you all in advance:)

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: I need your opinions
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2011, 06:54:39 AM »
You did place yourself at risk of infection by having unprotected anal sex. Your testing history indicates that you have not been infected as a result of that encounter.

You are conclusively HIV negative.

Additionally I would encourage you to be vaccinated for HBV.


Offline Ann

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Re: I need your opinions
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2011, 07:35:03 AM »

I agree with Matty - you are conclusively hiv negative. You do not have hiv.

It's actually quite common that a man will suddenly change his attitude toward a woman once he gets what he wants - sex. It's happened to me in the past and it's happened to millions of other women around the world too. Some men can just be like that.

You were at risk, but you came out of it ok. You do not have hiv. Here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative in future.

For a start - do NOT EVER take someone's word for it that they're hiv negative. Some people lie and some people don't accurately know their hiv status - they only think they're hiv negative. You can't tell by looking at a person, you can't go by what they do for a living or how much money they have and you certainly cannot go by what they say.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

« Last Edit: April 23, 2011, 07:36:45 AM by Ann »
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