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Author Topic: Cunnilingus risk  (Read 4518 times)

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Offline tty1

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Cunnilingus risk
« on: October 22, 2010, 03:47:38 PM »
I had an encounter at an erotic massage place 3 weeks ago in Canada. I ended up performing cunnilingus on the sex worker for about 5min. I also briefly performed rimming on her. My tongue never went inside her, just mostly on and around her clit. I am now overcome with anxiety over the fact that I might have put myself at risk of HIV. I tend to think it was risky since she was a sex worker and obviously has lots of partners. There was no intercourse of any kind though. I also feel guilty over visiting this place in the first place and perhaps that is adding to my anxiety. I've read lots about the risks or lack thereof in giving and receiving BJs but don't see any info on cunnilingus or rimming. Now I can't stop my mind from thinking about every possible negative thing regarding HIV and this incident and it's awful. Obviously since my mind has a hard time with this, I won't put myself in this situation again but I'm still forced to deal with the current situation. Any guidance or reassurances are welcome. Thanks for having this form, it's a wonderful tool.

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Re: Cunnilingus risk
« Reply #1 on: October 22, 2010, 03:55:03 PM »
Niether cunnilingus or rimming are risks for HIV transmission. Your own saliva has a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV.

The only confirmed behaviors which have been confirmed as risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse.

If you are sexually active you ought to have a full STD panel done at least annually. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

But as far as HIV is concerned, this time you are worrying needlessly. And there's no need for HIV testing.

Andy Velez

Offline tty1

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Re: Cunnilingus risk
« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2010, 09:28:43 PM »
Hi Andy or any of the other mods,

Is this advice of not needing to be tested based on the fact that I don't even know if this person had HIV and would it change if I knew for sure she was HIV+?

Since I don't know any HIV+ people and I'm sure you probably do know many, is using dental dams and condoms for oral sex common amongst people who know they're positive (when performing or receiving oral sex with a negative partner) or is that old time and outdated advice that is not really taken serious anymore by most people?  I know for myself, I never even gave it a thought for one second, I always use protection for intercourse but it's never occured to me that maybe it ought to be considered for oral as well - which probably contributes to my needless worry as I think maybe I was naive and might get caught because of it.  Those are my thoughts anyhow, reading this forum helps relieve some anxiety for sure, its really too bad there is so much scare tactics out there.  Thanks!

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Cunnilingus risk
« Reply #3 on: October 24, 2010, 09:36:06 PM »
No it would not make any difference.

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Re: Cunnilingus risk
« Reply #4 on: October 25, 2010, 04:50:57 AM »

We base all our risk assessments on the assumption that the other person is hiv positive.

The use of dental dams for the prevention of hiv infection during cunnilingus has been abandoned as unnecessary. Going down on a woman is not a risk for hiv infection.

Dental dams, however, can be used to prevent the transmission of some of the other more easily transmitted infections such as chlamydia or gonorrhea. Yes, you can get those in your throat. If you're worried about those, go get your throat swabbed. We don't deal with other STIs here. 

You have not had a risk for hiv infection. Keep using those condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse and you won't have a risk for hiv in future either.

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