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Offline bobik

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« on: August 28, 2006, 01:22:19 PM »
Sorry everyone, this hasn't got to do anything with HIV except that I have to deal with it right now.
This morning I received a mail from my work, that two of my former colleagues have had an accident. They were a married couple, and this weekend their car has been hit by another car, driven by a drunk man who was trying to escape the police at an alcohol-check. He drove very fast (80 miles p/h in the city) and hit the car of my colleagues. He was killed immediately and she is in the hospital on the intensive care unit with so many broken bones that one can hardly believe it.

I heard about the accident on the radio when I had a nightshift, I was driving in my car, and I remember that the news struck me. It is often that one hears about an accident and thinks "This is horrible" but then you forget again. It struck me that I found it very hard to forget, it was as if I already felt that someone I knew was involved. Very strange.

Hard to believe that that cheerful man is dead. A bearish guy with a warm heart and a great smile. And the poor surviving girl, who has to deal with the loss of her husband while being in the hospital. Life can be really cruel now and then.

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Offline angels4kelly

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Re: shock
« Reply #1 on: August 28, 2006, 01:29:01 PM »
Dear Coen,
I am so sorry for your loss and you and your friend's wife will be in my thoughts and in my prayers.





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knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.
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but the staying down

Offline Lis

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Re: shock
« Reply #2 on: August 28, 2006, 01:30:24 PM »

I am so sorry about your friends... you are in my thoughts

poz 1986....

Offline Life

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Re: shock
« Reply #3 on: August 28, 2006, 01:33:24 PM »
Coen,  I am so sorry...  It always happens to someone else, and not us... Sound familiar? 

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends...  I think we all need a bit of a break from the drama.. Please?


Offline pozguy75

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Re: shock
« Reply #4 on: August 28, 2006, 01:49:51 PM »
Oh, Coen, this is terrible news indeed! I am thinking of you with my heart my friend!
Dx 2005

Offline franfrog

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Re: shock
« Reply #5 on: August 28, 2006, 02:00:49 PM »
I am so sorry to hear this horrible news.  I too recently(not so recent, about 3 months ago) also had someone I know in a horrible car accident.  My 73 year old grandmother and 12 year old nephew.  Luckily my nephew is OK, my grandmother on the other had is still in the hospital with many many broken bones and nothing can seem to go her way. 
I hope your friend can get through this with much less pain and set backs as my grandmother.  I have her in my thoughts and prayers.
7/05 diagnosis cd4- 52 vl -?
08/05 cd4-299 vl-1900
10/05 cd4-249 vl-349
12/05 cd4-349 vl-52
03/06 cd4-454 vl-<50
06/06 cd4-508 vl-<50

Offline sweetasmeli

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Re: shock
« Reply #6 on: August 28, 2006, 02:03:42 PM »
Oh Coen, how tragic!
My deepest condolences to you, your friend's wife and his family.
You're in my thoughts tonight.

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Offline Teresa

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Re: shock
« Reply #7 on: August 28, 2006, 03:23:20 PM »

So sorry to hear about your friends.

Will keep you, his wife and their family in my thoughts and prayers.

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Offline AlanBama

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Re: shock
« Reply #8 on: August 28, 2006, 03:41:55 PM »
Sorry to hear this news Coen....

my sympathies to you and the family of your friend.


"Remember my sentimental friend that a heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others." - The Wizard of Oz

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: shock
« Reply #9 on: August 28, 2006, 03:46:15 PM »
This is just terrible. I pray for your comfort and for friend's surviving widow. God, this life is so tough sometimes.....
Andy Velez

Offline Eldon

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Re: shock
« Reply #10 on: August 28, 2006, 06:23:10 PM »
Hello Coen, it is Eldon. Sorry to hear of the news about your friends. I send my condolances and I will pray for the surviving widow.

Offline cubbybear

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Re: shock
« Reply #11 on: August 28, 2006, 06:57:11 PM »
Coen, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends.
There's a bear in there!
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Offline ndrew

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Re: shock
« Reply #12 on: August 28, 2006, 08:34:17 PM »
Deepest sympathy...


Offline IzPoz

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Re: shock
« Reply #13 on: August 28, 2006, 08:41:40 PM »
No words can ever close the wounds of a loss such as this.  I can only hope to soothe your pain, and know that my thoughts are with your colleague's wife, who is fighting for her own life.
The reason angels can fly is that they take themselves so lightly. ~ Chesterton G. K.

Offline RobT

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Re: shock
« Reply #14 on: August 28, 2006, 09:28:50 PM »
Sorry to hear about the tragic news. My deepest sympathies.


9/27/2005-1st test results
Viral Load >1,000,000
CD4 204
CD4%age 18
CD4/CD8 ratio .23
11/24/2005- Sustiva/Truvada
Viral Load 140
CD4 402
CD4%age .21
CD4/CD8 ratio .39
Viral Load 42
CD4 409
CD4%age .21
Viral load- undetectable
CD4 493
CD4%age .33

Next lab: 09/01/2006

Current meds: Atripla
VL: undetectable
CD4: 630

Offline wellington

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Re: shock
« Reply #15 on: August 28, 2006, 10:49:40 PM »
2006 has been a really bad year. I wish we could skip it, like the number 13.

Sympathetic hugs.

Offline bluelove

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Re: shock
« Reply #16 on: August 28, 2006, 11:36:34 PM »
I just wanted to say how really sorry l am to hear about this.You and your friends wife are in my thoughts and prayers tonight and in the coming day's.

Offline Moffie65

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Re: shock
« Reply #17 on: August 29, 2006, 09:06:50 AM »

I am so sad to read this report.  Please be sure that one man in Arizona is thinking of you in your time of loss. 

In Sadness.
The Bible contains 6 admonishments to homosexuals,
and 362 to heterosexuals.
This doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals,
It's just that they need more supervision.
Lynn Lavne

Offline bobik

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Re: shock
« Reply #18 on: August 29, 2006, 05:04:27 PM »
Thanks everybody.
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