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Author Topic: Is he Poz or Not?  (Read 2361 times)

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Offline sp1983

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Is he Poz or Not?
« on: May 07, 2010, 10:30:17 AM »
hello all,

First of all i'd like to congratulate everyone for the great help this site offers.

The prob is with my BF. Last October he complained for 2 or 3 lymph nodes on his neck. The nodes werent painfull just swallen. We went on a hospital with the thought it might be toxoplasmosis or mononucleosis. The doc gaves us some tests to do, mostly blood tests along with an hiv-elisa test. I decided to take the test too as we have a relationship for the last 8 years and having unprotected sex. Around 30th of October mines test result was negative but my bf's test came back inderteminate. With so many tests done we found out that his liver and his spleen got enlarged and he had more lymph nodes in his growing, again swallen and not painfull. At November, the doc decided to give him a WB test whic came back positive. After this, he admitted that he had cheated on me after a break up we had last summer. He told me he was top and he used condom. That sounded weird cause of the previous positive WB. He insisted and at February, the doc decided to gave him a PCR-TEST, just to make him sure he is hiv poz. Fortunattely PCR-TEST came back negative. Doc give him another one which came back negative as well. He then gave him a PCR-TEST for hiv-2 (which is really uncommon where i live) which came back negative too.

The doc then told us he is hiv-neg and he trust the PCR-Test results and he also said that he didnt know why the WB came back positive. Nowadays, his lymph nodes after 8 months are still swallen but his spleen and liver came back to normal size. I'm really frustrated cause i really dont know what to believe. Is he poz or not???

PS. I did duo test 1 month, 2 months and 3 months after the last time we had unprotected sex
PS. Sorry for my bad english, i hope u all understand what i'm writing, its a really big and complicated story.

Thanks in advance:)

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #1 on: May 07, 2010, 10:45:34 AM »
His test was all wrong.
Western Blot tests are confirmative tests given when someone tests positive on an antibody test.
PCR-RNA are supplemental tests that have to be used in conjunction with antibody test.

The testing guidelines for a conclusive negative test is 3 months post exposure.

Offline sp1983

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #2 on: May 07, 2010, 10:54:40 AM »

he had 3 inderteminate Elisa test in a term of 3 months. We didnt know what was going on and the doc decided to give him a WB. Btw, i have read somewhere in this forum that PCR-RNA tests rule out all others cause they look directly for the virus.

PS. all tests were done after the window period, and PCR tests were done 6 months after the incident. (His exposure was approximately 15th of August).

thanks for the fast response:)

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #3 on: May 07, 2010, 11:00:19 AM »
he admitted that he had cheated on me after a break up we had last summer. He told me he was top and he used condom.

Yeah and I can tell you I'm the Duchess of Kent. Doesn't make it true.

Kiddo, I don't know what's going on here and it sounds to me like you don't either. Roddles is quite correct; the testing history you report makes no sense at all.

So why don't we stop worrying about your partner. Let's focus on you.

When did you last have unprotected anal or vaginal sex?


Offline sp1983

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #4 on: May 07, 2010, 11:04:16 AM »
I just tell u what happened. Thats the history. And after 8 years monoramus relationship i do believe him.
My last unprotected sex with him was at the 3rd of October.
1st Hiv-Elisa test done was at the 30th of October
2nd Hiv- Duo test done was at the 25th of November
3rd Hiv-Duo test done was at the 11th of January.

Hiv- Duo test was a combo elisa test along with p24 antigen. All came back negative.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #5 on: May 07, 2010, 11:07:52 AM »
You don't have HIV.

Offline sp1983

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #6 on: May 07, 2010, 11:12:20 AM »
i know rapid and thanks again for ur time:)

what do u think about my bf?
we need to get over it for sure.

and guys this is how things happened, i know its so complicated and i know that tests cant be done this way, and i wish i knew that earlier. its really important for me to try to understand and help me.

many thanks

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #7 on: May 07, 2010, 11:15:11 AM »
He needs to retest with the correct antibody tests.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Is he Poz or Not?
« Reply #8 on: May 07, 2010, 01:18:31 PM »
And you need to make sure that if and when you have intercourse with him, condoms are used everytime. No exceptions.
Andy Velez


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