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Author Topic: Could I actually be positive? neg at 12 weeks post REAL exposure to HIV  (Read 3030 times)

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Offline Angel168

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Hi guys,

It has almost been a year since I tested negative for HIV after having receptive vaginal sex with my boyfriend who later tested positive - therefore I was at high risk for getting HIV - although he did not ejaculate inside me. The thing is - I took this 12 week test as definitive (84 days to be precise), but now that I am seeing someone else, havng unprotected sex, I have suddenly starting worrying that perhaps I could be infectious?

The reason I am now getting worried is that this guy I am with now has very similar symptoms to those my ex had as he was seroconverting - nausea, vomitting, general malaise with a low grade fever for a few weeks. He now has a number of swollen glands in his neck that are quite big - and again a fever and feeling crappy (2 weeks after his last symptoms). He is very worried as he is not overly sick, but the glands that are swollen are unusual. The number of glands and position on the side of his neck are very reminescent of what my ex had - and I must admit have never seen this before in anyone else - hence my new found concern for my status. I have not mentioned the prospect of HIV of course as I don't want to worry him unnecessarily. THe incidence of HIV in my country is relatively low so is never really something anyone often considers.

My real question is - is it really possible that I could be positive? Given I tested negative at 12 weeks post a REAL exposure? I am guessing my sexual encounter with my ex was about 6 weeks after he seroconverted and likely to have been highly infectious. I will get a test to put my mind at ease - but really - am I just over reacting? I was never prompted to get further tests after my negative test - only really talked about if I was to continue having sex with my then HIV+ partner - which never happened.

Just after some reassurance, or a reality check that I and my now partner could indeed be infected  :'(


Offline Andy Velez

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No, you would not be HIV positive from that earlier experience since you tested negative at 12 weeks.

We can't know the HIV status of your current bf, but I can tell you that you have no business having unprotected intercourse with him or with anyone else. The only time you can safely dispense with using condoms for intercourse is when you and a guy have committed to being in a securely monogamous releationship and both partners have tested negative at a reliable point. Otherwise you need to make sure the guy is always wearing a condom. No exceptions no matter how great he looks or what he tells you about his history.

You need to get tested again at 13 weeks past the most recent unprotected incident. And you need to be using condoms everytime. Period.

HIV is not something to guess about. If your bf is having physical problems he should be discussing them with his doctor. And no, you are not overreacting. Everytime you have unprotected intercourse you are putting your life at risk. It's as real as that.
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Offline Angel168

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Thanks for your reply Andy,

I am worried about my REAL exposure to HIV rather than my current relationship that I didn't care to tell details about because I KNOW it is not a risk. If there is any risk it is from me - not the man I am currently involved with.

My question was related to whether I still could be positive. You have stated, and I have read a number of times that 12 weeks is definitive - BUT only 97%. that means 3 out of every 100 people could still seroconvert beond the 3 month mark. I am yet to read about this actually happening, but I guess just was after further reassurance that it is very rare. I am someone who has odd - against normal stats type of immune related illnesses and because of that I do worry that I may be a late seroconverter.

I will test as soon as possible - but it's not my current situation that I worry about - it's my last. SO many people post here with absolutely no risk whatsoever - I had one, a huge risk, unprotected sex with an HIV guy, so I ask these questions out of real concern, not because it was a possibility - because it actually happened.

Thanks for your time
« Last Edit: April 04, 2010, 02:36:37 AM by Angel168 »

Offline RapidRod

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That's not what the 3 percent means.


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Offline Ann

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You are conclusively and reliably hiv negative following the unprotected intercourse with the man known to be hiv positive.

However. You claim to KNOW you are not at risk in your current relationship. Unless you have both tested hiv negative TOGETHER, you don't KNOW anything. I bet you would have said the same thing about your other man who did end up to be hiv positive.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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