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Author Topic: Should he be tested just in case?  (Read 3224 times)

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Offline cassandra smaasch

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Should he be tested just in case?
« on: August 24, 2006, 12:35:18 PM »
Hi all,

You may remember I was extremely anxous a few months ago regarding HIV infection, tested negative in March after months of worrying etc.  My boyfriend has a swollen lump (I think it's a lymph node) underneath his arm, he thinks its nothing problably related to a burn he got on Monday on his hand but I am getting anxious that somehow this could be something serious?  I made a doctor's appointment for both of us tomorrow. 

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2006, 12:50:05 PM »
No dont' remember your post. As you can see we have several posts a week.

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2006, 12:55:13 PM »
Symptoms of any kind are never the way to know anything reliably about HIV status.  And a swollen lymph node or "lump" is not in anyway an HIV specific symptom.

If your bf has had unprotected intercourse prior to or outside of your relationship or any other risky behavior then he should get tested. And you two should be using latex condoms everytime you have intercourse until the issue of your HIV statuses is reliably clarified.

HIV is never something to guess about.

Andy Velez

Offline cassandra smaasch

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2006, 01:04:40 PM »
Thanks, so are you saying a possible swollen lymph gland is not symptomatic of hiv infection? 

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2006, 01:08:11 PM »
Swollen lymph nodes are not specific to ARS/HIV infection.

Offline cassandra smaasch

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #5 on: August 24, 2006, 01:09:34 PM »
thanks for your quick response.  he'll get checked out tomorrow and hopefully all will be well.

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #6 on: August 24, 2006, 01:28:32 PM »

Your thread in the old forum is here.

If your boyfriend never tested, then he does need to test. Anyone who is sexually active should test at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. If he's never tested, you should not be having unprotected intercourse with him. Just because you tested negative earlier this year does NOT automatically mean he is negative as well.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

This lump of your boyfriend's is unlikely to have anything to do with hiv - even if he is positive. 

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Offline cassandra smaasch

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #7 on: August 24, 2006, 01:47:01 PM »
He was tested prior to the start of our relationship.  I just got worried because I googled swollen lymph glands and immediately got pages of ARS, lymphoma etc. and then I read this thing about Regan Hoffman going to the doctor with a swollen gland when she was first diagnosed. Again, I recognize I'm reaching in applying her case to his but sometimes the anxiety is a little overwhelming... thanks for your help. 

Offline cassandra smaasch

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Re: Should he be tested just in case?
« Reply #8 on: August 25, 2006, 11:08:18 AM »
We are both fine!  Tested negative.  And the lump was an ingrown hair...I feel stupid.  Thanks for your patience.


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