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Offline WorriedGuy86

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can't sleep, please answer.
« on: March 14, 2010, 01:57:02 PM »

Sorry to be too graphic here but I just want to know if I did anything wrong that would put me in a chance of getting STI/HIV.
I had protected sex with three sex workers in Jakarta, first one three weeks ago, another one the day after, and the last one a week after that. The girls belonged to a large agency and they were very expensive. The person in charge told me that they get tested every two weeks but I have my doubts.
At my first encounter I urged her to give me an unprotected oral (Stupidest thing EVER!) and she reluctantly did. It lasted for about 30 to 45 seconds. And I masturbated the top of her clitoris with my fingers (pubic region not lower, I was "careful" not to go any lower) 1st mistake. During intercourse I suspected that the condom might have broken (but now I don't think it did) so I changed it.
My second one was new to the agency and was quite inexperienced so she might have been exposed to STIs lesser (good news for me), during intercourse she urged me to change the condom as it was causing her discomfort and I did. later I touched her labia for about 2 seconds. 2nd mistake.
The third one sucked my scrotum and my nipples while I still had the condom on. 3rd mistake. At one time she used baby oil but I immediately changed the condom and let her use her saliva instead.
So far at day 22 from my first, and day 14 from my last, I have coughing, sore throat and my head spins for no apparent reason but no swollen lymph nodes (yet) and my body temperature is 37'3 C.  I experienced diarrhea immediately the next day of my first time but let's admit I drank too much orange juice at the time so that might explain the diarrhea I guess.
And FYI I used condoms labeled; "Slightly thicker for extra protection" the whole time and never had vaginal intercourse without it and never used my mouth (except for kissing) but the fellatio incident is killing me.
I did a VDRL for syphilis and urine test for Gonorrhea and the results came negative, but HIV?!!!!!!
Although I learned my lesson, I'll never have sex with prostitutes EVER! but the thought of HIV is making me close to weep! I can't even smile.
My questions.
1.) Assuming they were STI/HIV positive, am I at risk here?
2.) How accurate is it to do an ELISA test after two months from the riskiest exposure.
3.) Do you think my symptoms are anxiety or ARS?
4.) How likely is it for me to get HIV from what I reported?

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Re: can't sleep, please answer.
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2010, 02:05:54 PM »
The bottom line in all of this is whether you had unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. Within all of your details it doesn't seem to me that you did, which means you were not at risk for HIV transmission. All of that other stuff is only theoretically risky. But in the real world of HIV we know that it's about using condoms everytime for intercourse.

So your "symptoms" notwithstanding I don't see any cause for concern about HIV nor any need for testing. If symptoms continue to bother you that is something to discuss with your doctor. This is not an HIV situation. And keep using those condoms for intercourse.

Andy Velez

Offline WorriedGuy86

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Re: can't sleep, please answer.
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2010, 02:10:33 PM »
Oh my goodness! Thank you so much for your rapid response. You made me smile the first time in three weeks! ;D I owe you one.
Yes. Honest. I never had it unprotected. Never.  :)
Thanks again.
« Last Edit: March 14, 2010, 02:12:46 PM by WorriedGuy86 »

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Re: can't sleep, please answer.
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2010, 02:37:15 PM »
You're welcome. Glad you found our exchanges to have been helpful.

Andy Velez

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Re: can't sleep, please answer.
« Reply #4 on: August 20, 2016, 06:11:29 PM »
I am getting more and more afraid of having been infected after an episode of having sex with CSWs. I am a straight circumcised male.

I was having a (protected) threesome with 2 CSWs a little over three months ago. Suddenly it was interrupted and I left the place without taking off the condom (I didn't ejaculate). The condom stayed in my penis for a while (about half an hour) even after when my penis was flaccid. Then I removed it in the bathroom and washed my genital area. I later had protected sex (new condom) with another CSW to completion. I remember her vaginal secretions a little on the exposed area of my penile shaft. During this whole ordeal, the condoms never broke or slipped to my knowledge. I have not had sexual intercourse since. Before that episode I had done blood test and it was negative.
Now two weeks ago I was feeling a lump in my throat with no other symptoms. I went to the doctor and he prescribed antibiotic for a week. He didn't do a blood test. The feeling went away.
Now I have an ulcer in my mouth. It's inside my cheek where one would bite their inner cheek. I did a google search and it says ulcers are symptoms of HIV infection. I have no other symptoms.

According to my story above, am I in risk of having been infected?

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Re: can't sleep, please answer.
« Reply #5 on: August 20, 2016, 06:30:19 PM »
You are worrying needlessly about HIV.  There is nothing suggestive of HIV in your symptoms.  If they persist you should discuss them with your doctor.

There is no need for HIV testing because you didn't do anything that put you at risk.  Condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission.
Andy Velez

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Re: can't sleep, please answer.
« Reply #6 on: August 20, 2016, 06:31:47 PM »
Greetings WorriedGuy86: protected sex of any sort is not a risk for HIV infection.  You are not at risk for HIV infection, nor do you even need to test as a result of the activities described.
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