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Author Topic: Possible risk while visiting a gay club?  (Read 2107 times)

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Offline Gvh

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Possible risk while visiting a gay club?
« on: February 17, 2010, 01:25:46 PM »

Let me start by introducing myself. I am a 24 year old gay from Belgium and in a relationship for over 3 years. We are both hiv- and always have safe sex, this means using condoms all the time for every anal insertion. Last weekend we decided to visit a gay club to add some more excitement to our sex life.

While we were playing with each other in the club, at one moment my friend wanted to see another guy play with me. Nothing sexual, no blow job, no fucking, just a bit nipple play and some spanking. I didn't have problems with this but all of a sudden, the guy we just met put his finger inside my rectum without a warning.

I immediately started to freak out and since that evening, 4 days ago, I haven't slept and just keep thinking about the possible risk of this action. A good friend of mine has hiv and he has always told me to be very carefull during sex. Could someone please help me by telling if I did have a risk or is it something I shouldn't worry about and just go on with my life?

I am completely stressed out since the incident and get panic attacks during the day, I find it hard to sleep during nights and I feel that I'm just loosing myself for the moment. I would like to thank you in advance for your reply.

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Offline RapidRod

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Re: Possible risk while visiting a gay club?
« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2010, 02:24:00 PM »
You never had a risk.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Possible risk while visiting a gay club?
« Reply #2 on: February 17, 2010, 02:29:57 PM »
You are worrying needlessly. Fingering is not in anyway a risk for HIV transmission.

I suggest you read our lesson on Transmission, to which there is a link in the Welcome thread which opens this section. Essentially the only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. Use condoms for intercourse and you will be well protected against HIV.
Everything else sexual is only theoretically risky.

Get on with your life. There is no need for testing.

Andy Velez


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