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Author Topic: Valentine's day and my 3rd Anniversary..  (Read 1464 times)

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Offline karry

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Valentine's day and my 3rd Anniversary..
« on: February 13, 2010, 09:13:15 PM »
I should hate VALENTINE'S DAY!!.....

Tomorrow will be 3 years since I got my diagnosis....I cant believe it! Its been three years of sadness mingled with happiness; despair mingled with hope....days of tears, days of laughter.....but one thing I know for sure is that the world did not come to an end three years ago...its still here...and I am still here.

I am happy I have met people on these forums and in other places that have helped me these three years  to cope with and manage the transition. I am grateful to have the chance to read your stories, experiences, share with you and learn from most members of the forum.

In a way I am glad I was diagnosed in time, something which has shaped my life these three years. Being faced with my inevitable mortality was a wake-up call....I take nothing for granted...I find myself making healthy choices because I want to live and get joy out of life. I don't take friends for granted anymore...they've been great support to me; and I don't take my family for granted either.

Its not been smooth sailing all along...I have had my storms...emotional abuse; depression; frustrations about my career.....health issues...loneliness...not finding a partner to share my life with etc...and its amazing that during the storms I felt like it all had to do with my being HIV pos :)...(though I know better)

I don't want to have a blue day tomorrow, so ahead of time I have planned a lot of stuff for tomorrow...I'll be out of the house from morning till 10pm when I come home to sleep and get ready for work on Monday....

..and then I will move into year 4 living with HIV....

Take it a day at a time....and be positive about it too!

Offline Rev. Moon

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Re: Valentine's day and my 3rd Anniversary..
« Reply #1 on: February 13, 2010, 10:12:57 PM »

..and then I will move into year 4 living with HIV...

And here's to many, many more.  Sounds like you have a good balance of love for yourself and for life; that's what counts most sometimes.  Have a nice V-day, Karry.  

"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

Offline Joe K

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Re: Valentine's day and my 3rd Anniversary..
« Reply #2 on: February 13, 2010, 11:23:51 PM »

Glad to hear you are doing so well.  You have come so far in the past few years, so enjoy your anniversary.  Maybe we'll even have some snow, to make the day special.

Offline tednlou2

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Re: Valentine's day and my 3rd Anniversary..
« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2010, 04:18:51 AM »
Happy Valentine's Day to you.  I feel the way you do about this virus.  I would prefer not to have it, but I think I have become a better person-- or becoming one.  Still, I would rather become that better person being HIV neg. 

I'm glad I found out early, too.  Hopefully, this will give me a much better prognosis.  However, I often wish the knowledge of my diagnosis could have been delayed until now.  Ignorance is often bliss, but can be deadly too.  The big thing about knowing is that I can make sure I don't infect anyone.

I'm glad to hear you're doing well-- taking into consideration your low points.  Here's wishing ya many more anniversaries and good health.

Offline karry

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Re: Valentine's day and my 3rd Anniversary..
« Reply #4 on: February 14, 2010, 11:01:37 AM »
Sounds like you have a good balance of love for yourself and for life; that's what counts most sometimes.  


Yes M. That balance really counts. I learnt from my past relationship that I had to love and accept myself and my life, for others to be able to love me for who I am.

Joe, I was hoping we'd seen the last of the snow in Mtl..but I am looking out my window and seeing a few white flakes falling.

Tednlou2, you and I do feel the same about this...I would still rather be negative...but crying over spilled milk will not bring it back. So I am moving along in acceptance and like you say, making sure I dont infect others.

Thank you all for your kind wishes...

Happy Vday to all of you...
and now, I am off to start my day as I promised!! :)
Take it a day at a time....and be positive about it too!


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