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Author Topic: Re: realing hiv status  (Read 1126 times)

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Offline allenatmpls

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Re: realing hiv status
« on: February 06, 2010, 01:09:02 AM »
 :-\ does it make since in revealing status to others with no importance's. it seems persons with hiv, like me ,want other folks  to feel guilty about our condition. i am black,gay and have hiv ,however, i don't feel it necessary ,to feel the need ,to tell everyone  i have hiv, since they don't  have a real impact on my status or how i live my life. as a person with many other issues,  we should be more concerned about. like having a job and the ability to access quality health care or,being able to find suitable housing that is affordable, or being able to self sufficient and not feeling like we are always having to make noise about discloser when the real deal about discloser, should be when dating or when it is necessary to access programs available,or its necessary to disclose to a employer, if it has a impact on keeping ones job or being promoted or if it has a baring on keeping your job. so discloser make since if it has a impact  on quality of life.          m m Allen ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, allenattwincity@yahoo.com

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: realing hiv status
« Reply #1 on: February 06, 2010, 08:05:20 PM »
Hi Allen,

It seems you actually intended to begin a thread of your own as your comments were not related to the one in which your remarks was posted. 

Andy Velez

Offline tednlou2

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Re: realing hiv status
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2010, 12:59:09 AM »
I don't know what you mean about wanting others to feel guilty about our condition.  If that isn't what you meant, maybe you could clarify. 

I've said I believe we should all come out to reduce the stigma of HIV.  So far, I haven't lived up to that.  I often think I only want to tell people who will be a support system.  I wonder what good would it be to tell people who I know will freak out and make ya eat off paper plates.  We are all human and I may have acted that way, too.  However, I got an early lesson at about age 15 about HIV from a family friend who had AIDS.  Maybe telling people who are ignorant about HIV would educate them and reduce the stigma.  I went to the colorectal doc recently and could tell they were uncomfortable about my status--even people who know better sometimes act ignorant.

I was a little confused about your post.  Do you feel pressured to tell people?  Maybe I didn't read it right.

Offline tommy246

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Re: realing hiv status
« Reply #3 on: February 08, 2010, 11:33:39 AM »
I think its a very individual situation depending on ones needs and situation, i have told no one except my wife and brother and will tell nobody else for my own reasons and am quite happy with this decision. Many people are private when it comes to health matters not just hiv .
jan 06 neg
dec 08 pos cd4 505 ,16%, 1,500vl
april 09 cd4 635 ,16%,60,000
july 09 ,cd4 545,17%,80,000
aug 09,hosptal 18days pneumonia cd190,225,000,15%
1 week later cd4 415 20%
nov 09 cd4 591 ,vl 59,000,14%,started atripla
dec 09  cd4 787, vl 266, 16%
march 2010  cd4 720 vl non detectable -20  20%
june 2010  cd4  680, 21%, ND

Offline skeebo1969

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Re: realing hiv status
« Reply #4 on: February 08, 2010, 01:34:46 PM »

   Skeebo thinks things like this are tototally up to the individual, myself and Thomas not included.   If you are not comfortable with disclosing nothing says you have to, it's a personal choice.
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