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Author Topic: Ease my mind please  (Read 1890 times)

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Offline toxicboi

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Ease my mind please
« on: November 18, 2009, 12:10:52 PM »
Four years ago I met a guy who I really liked, then he told me he was HIV positive.  At the time I didn't know what to do, I liked him so much that I decided to give it a chance, he told me we could make it work and I followed.  We kissed alot, I was an oral receiver, and I we had sex a few times, me as a top always and with protection.  One night I masturbated him and he came in my hand.  To make a long story short we were only together for a month but eventually things didnt work out and we split. Right after that the realization of what had happend hit me, I became so paranoid and afraid I might have been infected one of those times.  So tested three months later, it was negaitve.  I tested a year later, it was negative.  The fear would disapaer for a few months, and then back again.  I tested two years after and still negative.  anyaway, I had other encounters with other people so I have tested again two more times this year and they were all negative.  What I am afraid of is that all these times I have been getting tested with the rapid oraquick test and most of the times the counselour didn't even wait 20 mins to tell me my result, my mind keeps going to "what if's".  I have someone special in my life right now and he wants us to get blood tests.  I am terrified.  In my heart I know that all those negatives are reasuring but I can't stop worrying, I am worrying myself sick.  are the rapid test accurate.  All I want is an answer from someone who can put my mind at ease, please.

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Re: Ease my mind please
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2009, 01:18:26 PM »
You are without a doubt HIV negative. And as long as you consistently use condoms for vaginal or anal intercourse without exception, you will stay that way.

Your concern is totally unwarranted and sounds like something you ought to be discussing with a counselor or a therapist. You have sound basis in HIV science for being concerned about your status at this point.

Get yourself some professional help to deal with what is driving this irrational fear is my suggestion.

Andy Velez


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