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Offline dmHelp

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desperately looking for help
« on: August 17, 2006, 09:59:56 PM »
I am really worried about an encounter that took place a while back.  I was on vacation in Europe and visited a brothel. I ended up with a prostitute and the following happened during the encounter:

-Protected insertive oral sex.
-Protected vaginal intercourse (for a very short while).
-I briefly sucked on one of her nipples.
-For a short while, the women licked and sucked on my testicles.

Its that last thing that has me really worried.  I am almost certain the condom was intact and unbroken during the vaginal.  The one thing that is also driving me crazy is that I allowed her to take the condom off.  She took it off with a towel, and proceded to wipe my penis a bit with the towel. Is there a possibility some vaginal fluid from the condom could cause me problems (I'm pretty sure the condom did not come in contact with me when she was wiping). 

Still, given all of this, I am going out of my mind with worry.  Can one of they experts on this site please provide some feedback?

Thanks, and I appreciate any help you can give.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #1 on: August 17, 2006, 10:03:03 PM »
There is absolutely no risk of HIV transmission from this sexual encounter. You practiced safe sex. Well done! Please read our Welcome Thread to learn about how HIV is and is not transmitted.



Offline dmHelp

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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #2 on: August 18, 2006, 12:00:13 AM »
I appreciate your reply.  However, things keep playing out in my mind.  After we finished the vaginal intercourse, and the condom was still on.  Its possible that some vaginal fluids could have gotten on my pubic area where the condom was resting. Then , after she took the condom off and wiped me with the towel, I continued to lay on my back for about a minute longer, and my penis could have come in contact with the skin where the condom had been resting.  This is really freaking me out.  Does anyone have any info on risk/similar situations of what I describe? Moderators, your answers are greatly appreciated.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #3 on: August 18, 2006, 12:04:53 AM »

I read what you wrote and I can assure you HIV is just not transmitted from what you report. HIV is a very fragile virus and it's particular about the sorts of cells it will infect. This are just not found on the surface of your penis. HIV is transmitted internally, ie inside your body. Which explains why it's spread through unprotected anal or vaginal sex.

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Offline dmHelp

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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #4 on: August 18, 2006, 06:30:16 AM »
According to the Lessons section, it says

"For men, HIV must enter through a cut or abrasion on the penis, through the lining of the urethra inside the penis."

I am in a panic because I feel like it is possible I could have been exposed this way.  Do any of the other moderators care to weigh in?

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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #5 on: August 18, 2006, 06:37:33 AM »

You didn't have a risk. Condoms have been proven to be very effective when it comes to preventing hiv transmission.

Successful hiv transmission occurs INSIDE the human body as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. You only need to worry about cuts on your penis if you are putting your cut penis inside an anus or vagina without a condom on it. You did NOT do this and so you had no risk. None at all.

Please read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

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Offline countrykid

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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #6 on: August 18, 2006, 09:37:54 AM »
Well i'd just like to add on what Ann has to informatively described, i had a similar experience where i thought i could have been infected by any secretions on the partner's hands after she removed my condom with her hand, so i thought i could get infected by that, but it JUST DOESN'T HAPPEN.

hiv transmission happens inside the human body & unprotected intercourse (anal,vaginal) carries a risk, but from ur experience that's not the case....

& just so u know, i had cuts & abrasions on my penis too!!!

I tested reliably Negative at 13 weeks, & wish you will too!

Test at 13 weeks for a conclusive result...if you have any doubts, but you had no risk!!!

all the best!


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Re: desperately looking for help
« Reply #7 on: August 18, 2006, 10:15:26 PM »

Whilst it's nice that you want to help, you really aren't in any position to give advice to others. Leave that to those of us who know what we're doing. You would do well to keep your comments in your own thread.



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