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Author Topic: I know but I cant shake the worry  (Read 2650 times)

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Offline Steve from Canada

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I know but I cant shake the worry
« on: October 13, 2009, 10:16:14 AM »
I received an unprotected hand job from a friend.  We kissed twice as well.

She rubbed my penis for a few minutes and applied some spit to the tip of my penis with her finger tip during the hand job.  She did this 2 times.

I finished myself off with my spit and came.

No contact with her body (he clothes were on) or other body fluids.

No risk right?  No need for testing?

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I know but I cant shake the worry
« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2009, 02:51:59 PM »
Nothing you did was even remotely a risk for HIV transmission.

The only things you have to be concerned about in terms of sexual transmission are vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as you consistently use condoms for those activities you will be well protected. It is really that simple as far as sex and HIV.

And there is no need for testing in relation to this incident you have asked about.

Andy Velez

Offline worried_college_kid

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Re: I know but I cant shake the worry
« Reply #2 on: October 13, 2009, 03:01:17 PM »
I do not mean to come in here and hijack anybody else's thread. I am sorry for doing so.

Andy, you seem like a very intelligent and well informed individual in relations to this whole scary topic.

I would really appreciate it if you took a couple minutes to read over my thread that I started earlier. I would love your input and opinion on the matter.


Offline RapidRod

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Re: I know but I cant shake the worry
« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2009, 03:19:02 PM »
worried_college_kid, read the posting guidelines which are located in the "Welcome Thread."

Offline Steve from Canada

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Re: I know but I cant shake the worry
« Reply #4 on: October 13, 2009, 03:52:43 PM »
Thanks Andy.  I knew the answers but needed re-assurance.

I think what I have and many others is guilt from the experience (I am married) and not truly understanding what the real risks factors of getting HIV are.

Being a little OCD doesn't help.

In all, the worry about the experience is not worth the pleasure derived from it. 

One last question.  Is there any reason for a couple in a long term monogamous marriage to be ever tested?

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I know but I cant shake the worry
« Reply #5 on: October 13, 2009, 04:31:00 PM »
Worried, but posting in someone else's thread is against the rules and hijacking. Don't do it again. I'll lookin into your thread.
Andy Velez

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I know but I cant shake the worry
« Reply #6 on: October 13, 2009, 04:33:30 PM »
The only reason I can think of for a couple in a longterm monogamous relationship to get tested is if there is any unprotected intercourse happening outside of the relationship.

We also do encourage people who are wanting to give up using condoms and intend to be monogamous to just as a precaution get tested together to make sure of the status of each partner.

Andy Velez


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