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Author Topic: Boyfriend is Pos, I am neg  (Read 5326 times)

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Offline Sebastian1969

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Boyfriend is Pos, I am neg
« on: October 09, 2009, 03:02:51 pm »
My boyfriend is possitive and I am negative.  He has just started treatment this past month.  He has known since the mid 90's.  As I read through some of the postings on here, I was touched by some, and others I was dumbfounded by the ignorance of people.  I have known my boyfriend for the better part of our lives, we dated before he was diagnosed.  We wnet our seperate ways and remained friends.  We got back together in the early 2000's, he told me then he was positive.  He is very heathy, after talking with the doctor, we had some test done, his VL was over 100,000 and his t cell was under 200.  We decided that it was time to start a treatment.  I would do anything for this man, and never once have I ever thought about leaving him because of his status--the only way I could do that and look at my self is if I thought I could never be positive, and unless I stopped having sex years ago, that could never be a definative statement.  I am rambling, and I apologize, but if anyone ever questions rather or not to stay in a realationship because of HIV status--it is time to get out of the relationship since obviously it is not based on what a loving relationship should be about.
Thanks for letting me rant, the only anger I carry is toward the man that gave it to my beloved-although he is forgiven, I wish he would have been more honest, and the pharmacitical companies that make staying heathy cost so much.

Offline jackie

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Re: Boyfriend is Pos, I am neg
« Reply #1 on: November 13, 2009, 11:06:03 pm »
 ???i know the feeling my boyfriend is PPS,to
and i would never think of leaving him
I'm here for life with him but he can't
get pass it we have not had sex in 5
year and he will not get help for his
feeling about what he's living with
he telling me he will mess me up for
life and he can't do it.
      someone help me cause i love him
     and i know we can use a condom
   at all time we must do thing different
    but we can make this work what do i do

Offline Sebastian1969

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Re: Boyfriend is Pos, I am neg
« Reply #2 on: November 16, 2009, 09:38:44 am »
Educate him.  I know it is hard for the pos partner in a relationship to feel comfortable, it does show a great deal of concern for your well being, which is touching, but a little misguided.  Talk to him and let him know that you have done your research and these are the things we can do-then list them, and let him know you are comfortable in doing these things.  For myself, I am comfortable with our sex life, we play on the safe side, and we have had the discussion that if something ever did happen.  There are several people on here that he may find it easy to talk to and feel more at ease.


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