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Offline aj_78

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Extremely anxious and worried
« on: October 01, 2009, 10:11:51 AM »
I was in the massage parlor Aug 14 in Toronto. Which involved frottage, the massage lady sitting on my penis unprotected and rubbing, and handjob at the same time. But I never penetrated in her. My worst fear is that, her vaginal secretions could have entered urithra. After this incident I had pain on penis, and took some antibiotics, the pain stopped within a week.No discharge. Looked like NonSpecific UTI. Starting from 3rd week, Im feeling feverish on and off. I had stuffy nose, chest congestion, sore throat, white tongue all along. nausea stopped after 4 weeks. My stomach is making noise till now, that I could hear. Almost 7 weeks over now. Still the same symptoms continue. I took HIV, Syphilis, Hepatitis after 3 weeks all negative. I took rapid test after 5 weeks all negative. I have lost considerable wait in lost one month.

I have planned one coming wednesday (7 weeks and 5 days). The thoughts of getting HIV killing me and I'm very anxious. I'm starting to believe I have got HIV and, and ruined my family life. What are my chances?

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Re: Extremely anxious and worried
« Reply #1 on: October 01, 2009, 11:13:56 AM »
As you were told in another fourm you never had a risk.

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Re: Extremely anxious and worried
« Reply #2 on: October 01, 2009, 05:10:18 PM »
The only confirmed risks for sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as you always condoms for those activities you will be well protected against HIV sexually.

Nothing you have described put you at risk for transmission.

If your symptoms persist then you should discuss them with your doctor. They have nothing to do with HIV.

Andy Velez

Offline aj_78

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Re: Extremely anxious and worried
« Reply #3 on: October 02, 2009, 12:58:17 AM »
Thanks for your replies Rod and Andy,

You are doing a great job on helping people like me. That certainly is reducing lot of my anxiety.

1. Let us rule out the possibility of HIV based on this exposure and the symptoms I got. Remember that, I was treated 3 days after this incident for non specific UTI, I did not have any discharge but just pain. What other STDs have similar symptoms? (Three weeks after exposure, I tested for HIV, Hepatitis and Syphilis all negative. 5 weeks after exposure I did just rapid test, that is negative too)

2. After a week of doxycyclin the pain got cured. The UTI triggered the panic button in me, meaning something entered the urethera. Exactly after 2 weeks, I'm getting the text book symptoms of HIV and that continues till today (with today 7 week ended). I have an appointment on May 07, that will be 7 weeks and 5 days. How conclusive that would be? I think everyone agrees that it is close to conclusive result.

3. I'm having what I fear as HIV symptoms from 3rd (14th day) to 7th (49th day) week of exposure. I tested at end of the 5th week (35th day). Do you think I would have tested positive at the end of 5th week, had it really been the ARS symptoms/sero conversion started around 3rd week? (I was in very good health until before this incident.)

Again, you have been doing wonderful job. And sorry for being such a pain to you (though I'm generally not).

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Re: Extremely anxious and worried
« Reply #4 on: October 02, 2009, 06:02:52 AM »

1. This is an hiv website. If you have questions about other STIs, see your doctor.

2. You did not have a risk for hiv infection and you do not need further testing. You are already conclusively hiv negative.

3. You would not have tested positive at the end of week five for one very simple reason. You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection!

Sexually speaking, the only proven risks for hiv are unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. You did not have unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. You did NOT have a risk.

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Offline aj_78

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Re: Extremely anxious and worried
« Reply #5 on: October 02, 2009, 06:34:27 AM »
Thanks a lot Ann. There was a typo in my previous post. I wanted to say, I have a appointment on Oct 07. How ever you seem to have understood properly. Thanks for your advice, and I will try to move on. However I will do a HIV test on 8 week mark and 13 week mark. I will post whatever the results be.

By the way I like your care and way of responding to people. You know what? you people are doing a great service, especially such issues where one cant even discuss with their close friends and family. My family and friends dont have any clue, why a very active and joyous person turned suddenly such a depressed sick moron. I'm living the worst part of my life, I feel like worst person in the world. This is my first incident ever in my life out of my monogamous relationship, and I'm feeling very guilty for what I have done.

Thanks for your advise again. It someway have helped me in realizing my other side in me.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Extremely anxious and worried
« Reply #6 on: October 02, 2009, 07:58:47 AM »
Well, if there was a test for guilt you would certainly be positive on that one. It's not a sign of your higher character that you're filled with shame. You're just another guy who went straying like a lot of us. You can't undo that bit of your personal history. The best thing you can do for all concerned is to take a breath, let it go and get on with your life.

For sure you will test negative on your HIV tests.

Andy Velez


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