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Offline VC

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Kinda scared
« on: September 19, 2009, 01:46:23 PM »
Firstly thank you for this board and everything the contributing members do for everyone.   On to my concern, I know this has been answered but I want to give my experience for reassurance.  I was with a woman CSW last night.  I had cuticle sores on my fingers.  Not bleeding but would sting when i used hand sanitizer.  I was rubbing her clit and sucking her nipples.  I did not insert my fingers into her though my fingers did get a little wet.  After which I put on a condom (which we went to the store to get together as I did not have one on me, and she said to get one).  I received unprotected blow jobs and used a condom for intercourse.  What is my risk in this situation?  should I consider pep or anything?  I do not want to pass anything on to anyone if there is a risk.  please let me know, and thanks again for everything you all do here.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Kinda scared
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2009, 04:33:33 PM »
You didn't have a risk of contracting HIV.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Kinda scared
« Reply #2 on: September 19, 2009, 04:46:01 PM »
Nothing you did including your torn cuticle fingering her would have put you at risk for HIV transmisson.

Sexual transmission for HIV has only been confirmed via unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. All the other so-called risks are strictly theoretical. Which means in the real world of HIV infections don't happen that way.

You have no cause for concern nor any need for testing.

Andy Velez

Offline VC

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Re: Kinda scared
« Reply #3 on: September 19, 2009, 06:05:37 PM »
Thanks!  I know I read this in the forums but just needing to put out my exact circumstance out there to feel better.  I also have talked to the girl, who is actually paying her way through school, and she says she has been tested before and is clean. She also said she is extremely careful.  Thanks for reassuring me.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Kinda scared
« Reply #4 on: September 19, 2009, 06:38:50 PM »
That's good that you feel reassured but I can tell you that if you had had a real risk, talking with someone about their HIV status doesn't mean beans. Fortunately in this case you didn't have a real risk. But if you had you need to know that getting your own test result is the only way to be confident about your HIV status.

Also, although I am sure you didn't mean to offend, using the term "clean" to describe one's HIV status is considered rude. It implies that those with the virus are "dirty." They're not. They are just living with a virus. That's a term you ought to drop out of your vocabulary when discussing HIV or any STD for that matter.

Andy Velez

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Re: Kinda scared
« Reply #5 on: September 19, 2009, 06:42:22 PM »
As the others have said you did not have a risk..just a few things I would like to point out.

1..We do not use the word Clean when talking about HIV, it's like saying every one with HIV is Dirty I'm HIV+ and I shower everyday, my personel hygiene is spot on...

2..if you are sexually active then it's a good idea to have an annual STD check, including HIV...and always carry condoms with you, I was glad to hear the young lady in question insisted on useing them...so condoms at all times ...NO EXCEPTIONS.

Edited to add...Andy is faster on the keys than I am.. :)

« Last Edit: September 19, 2009, 06:45:01 PM by anniebc »
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