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Offline mightymo

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Slightly worried, please advise...
« on: June 29, 2009, 09:36:42 PM »
Hi all,

Here is my story...

I have been sleeping with my ex boyfriend now and again since we split up. Around 2.5 years ago I got an abrasion on my penis while rubbing up on him...the abrasion was so bad that it felt like a really, really bad carpet burn, and due to the pain I found it hard to ejaculate, so I used his cum once he had ejaculated to jerk myself off  ::). It wasn't till after that I realised just how swollen my penis was...by which time it was too late...

3 gruelling months later I went, got tested via a rapid test and it was reactive (though he said it was very "faint"). They took around 9 vials (maybe more) of blood and told me I had to wait 3 days for the conformational results, surprisingly all of which came negative. They did yet another test to be sure and they too came back negative. The guy at the clinic explained that they had started using a new rapid-test the day I got tested and that 2 other people had had false-positives as well.

Anyways about a month after that I saw my ex again...we didn't do much, just fondled eachother and I gave him oral sex. Because I hadn't had sex with anyone after my ordeal I really "went for it" and acted like I was some sort of sword swallower...

That was the last I saw of him, and that was my last sexual encounter (with anyone)...almost 2 bloody years ago!  ::)

Just yesterday I spoke to him and he told me he has recently been diagnosed with HIV  :(.

Do I have anything to worry about? Is deep-throating more risky? I have no idea if he knows when he contracted the disease as I only briefly spoke to him on the phone...but lets assume he was positive upon our last encounter...?

I'm meeting him this week sometime, and I really want to know if I should be worried myself, in which case I'd like to get tested before I see him...I really/truly want to be there for him 100% and I'd hate to meet up only to start panicking about myself while he's going through all this...

Also, I'm wondering if theres a chance that the results I got could have been wrong...is it possible that the rapid detected hiv while the others gave a false negative result?

Sorry for the long post guys...

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Slightly worried, please advise...
« Reply #1 on: June 29, 2009, 09:41:17 PM »
You didn't have a risk of contracting HIV but there is a risk of contract oral stds.

Offline mightymo

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Re: Slightly worried, please advise...
« Reply #2 on: June 29, 2009, 10:38:14 PM »
Thanks for your quick reply RapidRod.

Just one more question...I found out while reading someone elses story on here that shingles was a sign of HIV. I actually suffered from shingles sometime last year. I did a blood test at the time but I don't think they were looking for HIV, or would they have? I have no idea...

Well I'm going to try and get myself tested tomorrow, if not Wednesday for sure just to put my mind at rest...

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Re: Slightly worried, please advise...
« Reply #3 on: June 30, 2009, 03:21:04 AM »

Shingles is NOT a sign of hiv infection. ANYONE who has had chickenpox can get shingles at some point in their life. I know plenty of people who are hiv negative who have had shingles.

I fully expect your hiv test to return with a negative result. From what you've written, you haven't had a risk since your last negative result.

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