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Offline vavohihi

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So Scared ... Advise to me... Please
« on: May 12, 2009, 08:24:12 PM »
Dear Sir

I have a some Question ....

What happened is as follows.

A 5 weeks ago, I was involved in sort of light sexual activity with a woman. It was not a sexual intercourse nor oral sex nor mutual masturbation nor even a kiss, it was what they call spanking, slapping the womanís hips with my hands.
I was with my cloths on but the woman was not wearing anything but her blouse.

When I finished spanking her, I found her vagina wet with her vaginal fluid and so I wiped her vagina with a paper tissue.
And I wiped my penis because it was wet too. I think I wiped my glans and urethra with other paper tissue than the one I wiped her vagina with to the best of my memory, but a worry hangs on my mind that I might wipe my glans and urethra with the same paper tissue as I wiped her vagina with.   

But Iím quite sure that I used different paper tissue because I remember there was no stain on the paper tissue when I wiped my glans and urethra. If it was the one I wiped her vagina with, it must have been stained.   
However, I am worried if invisible(or small) vaginal fluid was smeared on paper tissue I wiped my glans and urethra with.

If invisible vaginal fluid(or small) was smeared on paper tissue and I wiped my glans and urethra with it, was it possible for me to get infected with HIV and do I have to take blood test to see if I was infected with HIV?
According to medhelp forum, a HIV, active or inactive, loses its infectiousness when it comes out of human body and it is not transmittable on environmental surface.

I am still before circumcision so more worried

Exactly, 5 weeks after my event, I have HIV test by Rapid Test kit, and the result is negative

1. Do i retest after 1 month later or 2 month later ?

2. In my situation, The test is conclusive?

Thank you for Answer

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Re: guide line to me ..in my situation..Plz...
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2009, 10:11:17 PM »
You were never at risk of contracting HIV as you were told.

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Re: guide line to me ..in my situation..Plz...
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2009, 01:08:58 PM »
When it comes to sexual risk for HIV transmission it's really very simple. Always use condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse and you will be well protected. For everything else including what you are concerned about the risks are strictly theoretical. In the real world of HIV we know it's about unprotected intercourse. Use condoms for anal and vaginal intercourse everytime and you will be well protected.

You are worrying needlessly this time. There is no need for testing nor for further concern.

Andy Velez

Offline vavohihi

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« Reply #3 on: May 13, 2009, 08:44:29 PM »
I think, your post reply is not for me..

Maybe you mistake, think...other people...

I have no any sex type..(virginal, anal, oral, kiss, masturbation...)

Your reply for me? exactly?
« Last Edit: May 13, 2009, 08:48:53 PM by vavohihi »

Offline RapidRod

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Re: guide line to me ..in my situation..Plz...
« Reply #4 on: May 13, 2009, 08:47:47 PM »
Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out, which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

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Re: guide line to me ..in my situation..Plz...
« Reply #5 on: May 13, 2009, 11:29:41 PM »
Yes, my reply was for you. Simply because I didn't mention each single sexual activity that you mentioned doesn't mean I didn't read them and understand.

You didn't do anything that put you at risk for HIV. There was no need for testing. You need to get on with your life and I simply pointed out the only risk you have to be concerned about is IF you have intercourse be sure to use condoms. You're so caught up in your head and your fears that you are not really reading what is being said to you.
Andy Velez

Offline vavohihi

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« Reply #6 on: May 14, 2009, 05:55:23 AM »
Thank you very much..

Gol bless with you ^^

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: guide line to me ..in my situation..Plz...
« Reply #7 on: May 14, 2009, 09:22:22 AM »
You're welcome. Now get on with your life.
Andy Velez

Offline vavohihi

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So Scared ... Advise to me... Please
« Reply #8 on: May 21, 2009, 05:17:09 AM »
Dear Sir

I have some question

I met a woman and experienced slapping her buttocks.
I slapped her buttocks with my palms about 10 times.
There was no direct sexual intercourse.
(sexual intercourse, touching the vagina, kissing, carassing, or touching the underwear that comes in direct contact with the vagina.)

I slapped her buttocks and grabbed them by putting my hands into the underwear(panties).   
When I came home and took a shower, I discovered that my hand that I used to touch the buttocks was slightly ripped about 3mm in length.  I washed my hands with soap 10 minutes after touching the buttocks, but I felt no pain at that time.  When I was taking a shower, it begun to sting.  However, it had no sign of bleeding when I discovered it.

I did not have a sexual intercourse or touched the womenís vagina or vaginal discharge, but I think it could be possible that my wound was exposed to her viginal discharge that was on her underwear(panties).

I have the following questions which I desperately ask your answer for.

1. In my case, is it necessary to take an HIV exam?
2. If not, am I 100% safe from HIV infection?

Thank you for your help.
Because I canít express myself clearly in English, I paid a translator to ask these questions.  I would greatly appreciate your detailed answers.

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Re: So Scared ... Advise to me... Please
« Reply #9 on: May 21, 2009, 05:45:09 AM »

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. And make sure you take notice of the fact that we do not permit multiple accounts here. If you attempt to create a new account again (I am the person who rejected your new account today and sent you a rejection email), you will be permanently banned.

Thank you for your cooperation.

We've already answered your questions. You had NO RISK FOR HIV INFECTION. NO RISK. You do NOT need to test over this specific incident.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Condoms are a girl's best friend

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