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Offline onepart

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« on: January 08, 2009, 05:17:37 PM »
hey guys,
i am very worried today after sometime without worries.
my boyfriend and i (female) had safe sex 8 days ago, safe means, we were using a condom for intercourse, he didnt even come inside of me,  the condom didnt break, i didnt perform unprotected oral on him, but he did unprotected oral on me. i later got his cum on my hand, on intact skin and i of course wiped it away and then washed.

he is positive since a year, no meds yet. i got a fever today. not extremely high butits there and i dont feel well, muscle and skin aching. its no normal cold, no sneezing/cough/sore throat.

symptoms... i know. but i am very scared at this point.
we are dealing with it since a year. with invitable ups and downs, i was on PEP for 4 weeks in between after a condom incident and came out negative.
i would have taken actions if i would have thought there was any risk in what we have done. but i dont think there was.
the only thing i keep worrying about is that precum could get on the outside of the condom while putting on the condom. he has quite some but also is cautios when putting it on. its been a week since then and i got fever today which i almost never have like that and he is positive.

it could be whatever i know. and i feel schizophrenic, learning much this last year and i still find myself at a point of almost panicking. knowing there somehow shouldnt have been a risk. but still. i could go on like that, its terrible. could you bring a little light into this?

thank you so much.

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Re: scared
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2009, 05:30:02 PM »
As long as you and your bf consistently and without exception use condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse, you will be well protected from sexual transmission of HIV. Of course it's understandable that you may worry from time to time, but the fact is that condoms provide very, very effective protection.

You don't have to be worried about any risk from precum that may have gotten on to the outside of a condom. HIV is a fragile virus and is not transmitted in that manner.

If you have any symptoms that's something to discuss with your doctor. Nothing you are reporting is in anyway HIV specific, but then neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms is ever the way to know anything accurately about HIV status. If there has been a real risk, and I don't see one in your situation, then the only way to be sure is by getting  tested at 13 weeks for a conclusive result.

As for you latest concern, I don't see any need for testing.

Andy Velez

Offline onepart

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Re: scared
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2009, 05:51:35 PM »
andy, thanks a lot, your quick response let me calm down a little.


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