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Offline brokenconcom1

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The condom broke and he was HIV+
« on: January 03, 2009, 12:57:18 PM »
Hi guys,

First off, a word of appreciation for all of your work - thank you so much.

Here's my story: Five and a half weeks ago, I performed oral and anal sex in a male. During the oral sex he did not ejaculate, even though there was definitely some precum I unfortunately swallowed. Then we moved on to anal sex, during which I was the insertive member. I wore a condom, of course, but as we were starting penetration it broke - but not as in 'completely broken'. The friction literally originated a hole in the latex, a pea-sized hole. I immediately removed the penis from inside his rectum and went to wash it with water and soap. After putting on a new condom, we continued to have anal sex and changed condoms yet again when we changed position.

40 hours later I get a text message from him - he had just been tested for HIV because I'd asked him to and his serum turned out to reactive. Man, did I freak out. I immediately went to see an ID specialist who prescribed me Combivir + Tenofovir. I started the meds 48 hours after my exposure.

On day 6 after my exposure, I had a PCR RNA test done and a P24 Antigen as well, and both came back negative. The antibodies were also non existent, of course.

Also, I later learned his CD4 count was 1024 and his viral load was not detectable, which I know may decrease the risk of transmission of the virus.

What to you guys think the odds are that I'll become HIV positive, considering my initial tests (which I know aren't fully reliable but so far have been helpful when it comes to trying to find something to hold on to) were negative, I started PEP (not as soon as I'd wished...), the contact I had, even though with an HIV+ person, wasn't the riskiest, and his viral load is undetectable? Have you ever heard of a case with similar conditions in which the guy seroconverted?

These last weeks I've barely been able to leave the house and haven't been dealing well with anxiety - the consequences of my actions may have been severe not only to myself but to those around me.

Thank you for your time, guys! You rock.

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Re: The condom broke and he was HIV+
« Reply #1 on: January 03, 2009, 01:10:22 PM »

First of all, your risk for transmission in the circumstances you've described was very, very low. In fact so low, that I consider very, very likely you are going to test negative. And I would have thought that even if you hadn't done PEP. If we had discussed it beforehand I would said I didn't think PEP was necessary. You may already know that the risk is significantly lower for the insertive partner. Taking that into consideration with the other factors involved, I certainly expect you will test negative.   

Of course I don't live in your shoes and I can certainly understand that you want to take every precaution to make sure you test negative.

PEP is very potent and having uncomfortable side-effects is very common.

You can if you wish test at 6 weeks after the completion of PEP. A negative at that point is unlikely to change. Your final test ought to be at 13 weeks after the completion of PEP.

Good luck to you. Keep us posted.

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Re: The condom broke and he was HIV+
« Reply #2 on: January 03, 2009, 01:12:16 PM »

I've yet to see the insertive partner end up positive due to a condom break and I don't expect you to be the first. You say a hole was created - was the head of your penis still covered? Because if it was, you didn't have a risk.

Are you still on PEP?

All things considered - your risk being on the lower end of the scale and taking PEP - it is highly unlikely you'll end up positive over this break. Seriously.

And by the way, with numbers like his, I wonder if he really is hiv positive. False positive results are possible. A positive result must be confirmed with a Western Blot test.

I fully expect you to come out of this ok. Please read through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can avoid breakage in future. A correctly used condom rarely breaks.

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Offline brokenconcom1

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Re: The condom broke and he was HIV+
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2009, 01:28:39 PM »
Thank you so much for your answers!

Tell me about the side effects of PEP, eh. And it's not like you wouldn't be able to bare them if you were alone (cos, you know, when you're home alone it's not a big deal to handle vomiting and nausea and the headaches even when they're constant, especially when you consider the possibility that you'll become positive if you don't take the drugs religiously), but when family is around you and they have no clue as to what is going on it gets a lot harder to pretend you're fine.

Luckily PEP is behind me now (only took it for 28 days), but I would gladly keep on taking it if I were sure it would prevent me from ever becoming infected. Here's hoping I'll never have to take those drugs again.

I'll take a new test next week, per my doctor's indication, since it's going to be the 6th one after my exposure. If I turn out to be positive my world will crash.

As for your questions, Ann, unfortunately it was on the lateral part of the glands that the condom popped. But as I said, I felt it break and immediately removed it... Man I hope there wasn't enough time for the virus to get into my urethra... :( And I'm not sure he's had a WB test done, but since he's being followed by a doctor I presume he has.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: The condom broke and he was HIV+
« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2009, 05:11:26 PM »
I agree completely with Ann. I think it's virtually a slam dunk that you'll test negative.
Andy Velez

Offline brokenconcom1

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Re: The condom broke and he was HIV+
« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2009, 05:33:29 PM »
Thank you guys, reading your posts is really encouraging. :)


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