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Author Topic: Serious Thoughts...  (Read 2557 times)

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Serious Thoughts...
« on: December 08, 2008, 06:22:52 AM »
Sometimes I want to think...
What are the right things to think about?  Pretty much I haven't been able to stop thinking of people in my family who have been terrible. I've been sober and they only want to talk about how they have gotten away with this or that.
The thing is they all still drink, use drugs, and don't care who they hurt to get what they want.
So do I hold my nose up high and be proud of my accomplishments, or do I work my fingers to the bone to prove I am a good person to a bunch of current alcoholics.
In other words a judge has said I should plan on being sober for the rest of my life, get away from that family of yours, get an education, be a good mother to your daughter and take care of your health.
How can an educated man be wrong?
I have done some research online to see what exactly a judge has to go through to become a judge, not that I want to be one, just to know why I should consider listening to what he has to say.
My mother has said along with several family members that I just don't want to do the work, this is why I am married.
I am married because my husband is the only person who listened to me and was able to conversate; proving he was listening. 
While at my family's home there is always temptation of drugs and alcohol. My husband will not deal with alcohol or drug use from anyone, so while at first intimidated, I have learned to feel safe in this environment after years.
« Last Edit: December 08, 2008, 06:33:11 AM by bleueyes »

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Re: Serious Thoughts...
« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2008, 09:33:46 AM »
The judge does have a valid point. While personally, I would never cut my family out of my life forever, if it were a destructive type of relationship, I would definitely keep my distance. Sounds like your husband is your rock, that is wonderful. Keep focused on what needs to be done in your own life.

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Re: Serious Thoughts...
« Reply #2 on: December 09, 2008, 06:36:52 AM »
Remember Blue, you can only change yourself, not other people (not even your family).  You don't have that much power.
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Re: Serious Thoughts...
« Reply #3 on: December 09, 2008, 03:59:50 PM »
Thank you. 
« Last Edit: December 09, 2008, 04:10:28 PM by bleueyes »


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